i have an older half sister, and there's a 14 year age gap between us. before my dad divorced my mom, he told me that my sister ain't even wanna hold me or kiss me when i was born. she wouldn't even look at me. whenever we met, she barely spoke to me unless my dad gave her money. i'm 22 now, and i've literally never gotten a hug, a kiss, or any kind of affection from her. it's like she genuinely can't stand me, almost as if she's fucking disgusted by my existence (?)
but someone once told me that my dad had neglected her throughout her childhood, she was barely taken care of, sometimes wasn't even given food, and my dad would cheat on her mom right in front of her when she was still a little kid. she stayed with her mom, who had her own trauma bc of my dad. unfortunately, she'd often take all that frustration out on my sister. my dad was abusive and put her through a lot of fucked up shit growing up. and even after i was born, he continued neglecting her. but when he married my mom, he suddenly became a much better daddy and started treating me with so much love and affection. the difference between how he treated me and how he treated my sister is honestly heartbreaking.
now my parents have separated for their own reasons, and i understand why my sister hates my dad, i really do. but what i can't wrap my head around is why she seems to hate me, when i've never fucking done anything to her. she moved to the netherlands bc her husband is from there, and i have no idea if she'll ever move back to the US. i haven't seen her in person in about 12 years.
my dad is upset and really wants her to come back and visit, but i honestly have no clue what i'm supposed to do. deep down, i really wanna build some kind of relationship with her. i just don't know if she still hates me or if she'd even want to have anything to do with me. i feel like i don't have anyone left to turn to, and a part of me keeps thinking that maybe she's the only person i have left who could become someone i trust. i don't wanna force a relationship that she doesn't want, but fuck, i wish i could at least have the chance to know my own sister. i just don't know how the hell i'm supposed to reach out after all these years
story kinda feel like straight out of some novel, manhwa or movie, though, you know you are really a good person that you want to get close with your sister yet aren't forcing her or going to force her but I would suggest you showsome gesture (without being too much) which tells her that still have some to rely on from her maiden home, like own she can only rely on her husband and I think she might miss and feel lonely too that she don't have anyone to rely on from her birth family and at the end it's your choice and first of all it's her choice, whether she wanna reunite, reply or not.
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story kinda feel like straight out of some novel, manhwa or movie, though, you know you are really a good person that you want to get close with your sister yet aren't forcing her or going to force her but I would suggest you showsome gesture (without being too much) which tells her that still have some to rely on from her maiden home, like own she can only rely on her husband and I think she might miss and feel lonely too that she don't have anyone to rely on from her birth family and at the end it's your choice and first of all it's her choice, whether she wanna reunite, reply or not.