When I was in high school I decided to lose weight so I started to "eat healthy, exercise", all in excess and I did not realize how much weight I was losing. Before I knew it I was already in anorexia, my parents and friends helped me with this problem, but it took me a year to recover. It is painful, so do not obsess about the shape of your body, learn to love yourself.
To everybody above who's obsessing with "I want to lose weight", "I want to lose at least this much a month and so on", seriously, I'm gonna stop you right there.
First, only 5% of diets are actually successful and the weight kept on the long term. What happens to the 95% is that you're going to rebound because mentally and physically, you're going to get back what you deprived yourself from. So if you're at that stage, worse if you're in your teens, you're just at the beginning of a dumb yo-yo cycle that's going to give you 10kgs of extra weight and extra emotional baggage you would have never gotten without diets in the first place. Stop trying to make your weight your identity. You don't go around announcing your weight to the world, and nobody cares more than you do. People see how you look, how you act and nobody will ask your weight, other than you doctor, and even to them you don't have to tell them if you don't want to. Stop weighing yourself; Get into a healthy relationship with your body rather than an obsessive one with the scale. Learn about self-love, Intuitive Eating and learn how to cook so you actually enjoy the whole process of feeding yourself, instead of dreading it and making both your dream and nightmare.
I'm a 26yo who's recovering from ED, so yes, I've been there. I've been fat, skinny, and all the bad shit someone can do to themselves in between to fit in a box. NOTHING beats actually loving your body and being so proud of it. I have no freaking idea how much I weigh anymore, I just feel great and it shows. I even learned to love my larger thighs, and now I know which skirts are best for my body type, not exercise I should do to make them thinner. If you're letting yourself and others attach tags to your body, find a way to get over it. Stop telling others "how to" diet too. I know you mean well, but orienting people towards self-love is the first step to sparing them a decade of ED and self-loathing. You only have one body in life, so start treating it like you love it, because I'm sure you'd never tell a friend what you tell to yourself/your body.
I don't care if I come as rude, but I'm telling you because I've been there, I'm still struggling to get out of the Diet mentality, I'm happy if I can save someone else a decade of that shit. Your skinny friends are not the ones who are on diet 24/7, they are the ones who just eat when they feel like eating, eat what their body really feels like eating, and they stop when they are full. Seriously, start reading about Intuitive Eating, treat your body nicely and learn to listen to it. For real. Don't read blogs about diets and your (k)pop favorite regimens, because you're not them. You don't need to be underweight to look good on camera, and you don't have a personal stylist, hairdresser, and makeup artist to cover your flaws every morning. It's just you and your body, so learn to work with it yourself, don't beat it around to fit into the mold of someone who's probably having their own fight with theirs. No one looks as good as someone who feels good in their skin, is confident AF, and rocks the style they love. You don't want to be a wannabe forever, so get started on who YOU are and who YOU want to really be.
Please don't obsess or get frustrated with lose weight! I understand you... You can do everything and even so, It seems not to work...In my case, my metabolism is too slow... I have lost only 10 kg (22 pounds) in three years... Yeah! Three years! Until I reached my ideal weight. People says that I'm too skinny, but it's not true, It's the right thing according to my BMI. The first step is control anxiety... stress or depression can make everything worse... Stop worryng!... Learn to know your body, enjoy your meals... go slow, step by step... Yoga is fantastic! Love yourself ever... Don't allow the body shame... Don't give up!
In my case, I've done pretty much everything to lose weight... It's a never ending battle... My doctor can't find anything wrong, I eat healthy and exercise 4 times a week. It's not like I'm obese, but I would like to know how it's like to be thin and to be able to wear everything and just feel good about myself...
I started dieting in march of this year, because I was getting to a number that I totally didn't want to see (namely 100kg). So I started counting calories. Nothing to excessive at first - like about 1600kcal/per day. With that I was on and off again. At the start of this summer I had a goal to diet properly so I did. I started obsessing about the number on the scale so I ate and ate less, till I thought that 600 kcal per day was too much food. But then I had to go to summer camp in the start of June and I realised that people would start asking questions if I didn't eat so I did. But I also exercised. And then I realised that my body was quite weak. After camp I started exercising and I realised that starving myself wasn't the answer. So I don't anymore... much...I still think I eat too much. That if my stomach isn't rumbling then I'm not doing enough to "get healthy". But then I realised that if I lose the weight too quickly then it's just gonna jump up again. That is how I keep my urge to starve at bay. But then again I tend to eat too much when I do. It's a delicate balance
But my story isn't tragic in any way compared to others. I realised early and I still had a long way to go. I still need to lose a lot, but I'll drag it out as best I can. Wish me luck!
I totally feel for you, when I was in high school too I decided to lose weight and as a result, I lost weight too fast and now have a bunch of stretch marks on my body. till this day I still diet and can't get over it.
Same here, I still think about calories ... is a vicious circle, sometimes you don't feel that you will never return to normal (i mean when you used to enjoy the food)?
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To everybody above who's obsessing with "I want to lose weight", "I want to lose at least this much a month and so on", seriously, I'm gonna stop you right there.
First, only 5% of diets are actually successful and the weight kept on the long term. What happens to the 95% is that you're going to rebound because mentally and physically, you're going to get back what you deprived yourself from. So if you're at that stage, worse if you're in your teens, you're just at the beginning of a dumb yo-yo cycle that's going to give you 10kgs of extra weight and extra emotional baggage you would have never gotten without diets in the first place.
Stop trying to make your weight your identity. You don't go around announcing your weight to the world, and nobody cares more than you do. People see how you look, how you act and nobody will ask your weight, other than you doctor, and even to them you don't have to tell them if you don't want to. Stop weighing yourself; Get into a healthy relationship with your body rather than an obsessive one with the scale. Learn about self-love, Intuitive Eating and learn how to cook so you actually enjoy the whole process of feeding yourself, instead of dreading it and making both your dream and nightmare.
I'm a 26yo who's recovering from ED, so yes, I've been there. I've been fat, skinny, and all the bad shit someone can do to themselves in between to fit in a box. NOTHING beats actually loving your body and being so proud of it. I have no freaking idea how much I weigh anymore, I just feel great and it shows. I even learned to love my larger thighs, and now I know which skirts are best for my body type, not exercise I should do to make them thinner. If you're letting yourself and others attach tags to your body, find a way to get over it. Stop telling others "how to" diet too. I know you mean well, but orienting people towards self-love is the first step to sparing them a decade of ED and self-loathing. You only have one body in life, so start treating it like you love it, because I'm sure you'd never tell a friend what you tell to yourself/your body.
I don't care if I come as rude, but I'm telling you because I've been there, I'm still struggling to get out of the Diet mentality, I'm happy if I can save someone else a decade of that shit. Your skinny friends are not the ones who are on diet 24/7, they are the ones who just eat when they feel like eating, eat what their body really feels like eating, and they stop when they are full. Seriously, start reading about Intuitive Eating, treat your body nicely and learn to listen to it. For real.
Don't read blogs about diets and your (k)pop favorite regimens, because you're not them. You don't need to be underweight to look good on camera, and you don't have a personal stylist, hairdresser, and makeup artist to cover your flaws every morning. It's just you and your body, so learn to work with it yourself, don't beat it around to fit into the mold of someone who's probably having their own fight with theirs. No one looks as good as someone who feels good in their skin, is confident AF, and rocks the style they love. You don't want to be a wannabe forever, so get started on who YOU are and who YOU want to really be.
That's it for me folks!
Ouuups sorry I meant to respond to the whole thread.
Please don't obsess or get frustrated with lose weight!
I understand you... You can do everything and even so, It seems not to work...In my case, my metabolism is too slow... I have lost only 10 kg (22 pounds) in three years... Yeah! Three years! Until I reached my ideal weight. People says that I'm too skinny, but it's not true, It's the right thing according to my BMI.
The first step is control anxiety... stress or depression can make everything worse...
Stop worryng!... Learn to know your body, enjoy your meals... go slow, step by step...
Yoga is fantastic!
Love yourself ever... Don't allow the body shame... Don't give up!
In my case, I've done pretty much everything to lose weight...
It's a never ending battle...
My doctor can't find anything wrong, I eat healthy and exercise 4 times a week.
It's not like I'm obese, but I would like to know how it's like to be thin and to be able to wear everything and just feel good about myself...
I started dieting in march of this year, because I was getting to a number that I totally didn't want to see (namely 100kg). So I started counting calories. Nothing to excessive at first - like about 1600kcal/per day. With that I was on and off again. At the start of this summer I had a goal to diet properly so I did. I started obsessing about the number on the scale so I ate and ate less, till I thought that 600 kcal per day was too much food. But then I had to go to summer camp in the start of June and I realised that people would start asking questions if I didn't eat so I did. But I also exercised. And then I realised that my body was quite weak. After camp I started exercising and I realised that starving myself wasn't the answer. So I don't anymore... much...I still think I eat too much. That if my stomach isn't rumbling then I'm not doing enough to "get healthy".
But then I realised that if I lose the weight too quickly then it's just gonna jump up again. That is how I keep my urge to starve at bay.
But then again I tend to eat too much when I do. It's a delicate balance
But my story isn't tragic in any way compared to others. I realised early and I still had a long way to go. I still need to lose a lot, but I'll drag it out as best I can. Wish me luck!
I totally feel for you, when I was in high school too I decided to lose weight and as a result, I lost weight too fast and now have a bunch of stretch marks on my body. till this day I still diet and can't get over it.
Same here, I still think about calories ... is a vicious circle, sometimes you don't feel that you will never return to normal (i mean when you used to enjoy the food)?