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Rejection

YunikonNiji December 19, 2015 2:40 am

Today was the last day of school before winter break. My friend, let's say Bob, told me that he had a Christmas present for me. He told me to open the envelope after he leaves. I opened it after he left, and there was a $20 Starbucks card, and a letter. A love letter. I FELT SO AWKWARD. I don't like him, I even like someone else, so how should I reject him? He's a shy guy, and in the letter he said he would still want us to be friends if I were to reject him. He also gave me a teddy bear and told a lot of people that he liked me!!! WHAT TO DOOOOOO?!?!?!

Responses
    Twinpowerhm December 19, 2015 3:04 am

    You need to communicate to him honestly that you don't feel that way about him. You could mention you like someone else as well, but that shouldn't be the first thing you say to him. You need to ultimately make it clear you only see your relationship with him as only friends.

    ==[::^o.o^] December 19, 2015 5:09 am

    I've been in this situation before.. Just remember as awkward as it is for you, it's way more awkward for him. Best action is to clearly straight up reject him, if he asks "why?" then tell him you like someone else. Lastly, give him back the presents if he wants them back, or else that teddy bear will be haunting the back of your closet for you to periodically look at and remind you of that awkward moment..

    I Thot You Was a Toad December 19, 2015 5:22 am

    Return the teddy bear, the love letter and the Starbucks card, and tell him clearly and unequivocally. Discourage the friendship, too, and explain that, since he must stop thinking of you in any romantic sense, you do not intend to give him any avenue to nurture hopes. Any relationship at this point, even platonic, is too awkward and distracting. It may seem cruel, but it is better to be clean and definite in these matters.

    Also, watch out for a possible backlash. If one comes, hold your head up and shoulders back and understand that it has nothing to do with you.

    Marcella December 19, 2015 6:35 am

    I hate when people do stupid things right before a LONG break,knowing you'll have to think about how awkward it is for the next 2 WEEKS!i agree with 'I thot you was a toad'.
    Best of luck!

    badmoonligh89 December 19, 2015 8:21 am

    Get him a gift of equal value and write in a letter explaining that you want to just stay friends.

    YunikonNiji January 3, 2016 9:41 am
    I've been in this situation before.. Just remember as awkward as it is for you, it's way more awkward for him. Best action is to clearly straight up reject him, if he asks "why?" then tell him you like someone ... ==[::^o.o^]

    I KNOW~ Every time I get off my bed to get some food it always catches my eye and I start to cringe right then and there
    (╯°Д °)╯╧╧

    YunikonNiji January 3, 2016 9:45 am
    Return the teddy bear, the love letter and the Starbucks card, and tell him clearly and unequivocally. Discourage the friendship, too, and explain that, since he must stop thinking of you in any romantic sense,... I Thot You Was a Toad

    THANK YOU SO MUCH, I already rejected him over text (I'm a coward, I know) and I blocked him afterwards. I plan on giving him the teddy beard and the card this Monday when I come back from break, and I also plan on ignoring him and cutting all ties with him. But the hard thing is, is that I have FIVE whole classes with him
    (╯°Д °)╯╧╧

    YunikonNiji January 3, 2016 9:47 am
    I hate when people do stupid things right before a LONG break,knowing you'll have to think about how awkward it is for the next 2 WEEKS!i agree with 'I thot you was a toad'.Best of luck! @Marcella

    Thank you for understanding my feelings *runs to hug you while in tears* For two whole weeks I've been feeling so stressed and awkward because of him (〜 ̄△ ̄)〜