ah, we think alike. :3 i'm like "bring it on! the more messed up, the better"
Ah, the joy of numbness. I think it's just if there's a couple pages of sex, they consider it hardcore. I'm more of a rough, graphic sex lover (*ahemMakiMurakamiahem*), but even those aren't too hardcore anymore. The only work of hers I'd consider hardcore is the Kanpai dj with the blood and cutting and weird stuff that I somehow find hilarious. But yeah. TomCat's are quite graphic too. But it's probably the ones with blood/extreme gangrape that I might consider hardcore nowadays.
It's weird that I remember being grossed out by graphic scenes, but now, it's sometimes disappointing when good artists don't draw them. ლ(´ڡ`ლ)
It irks me a lot and i see cases like those around here so i just leave it so i won't get annoyed all the time. Also, there are levels of hardcore yaoi before it became a softcore. It's not about 'personal preferences' but porn still has it's standard and people just ignore that and call it whatever they like. The solution i made for mine is to create a separate list an call it smut then place glaring warning allover my hardcore list. The hard ones i've read lately are usually bestiality, gang rape and mind break
is it just me that when people share their "hardcore" list, i laugh? my thoughts are always, "they think this is hardcore?" and then laugh cause i'm pretty numb to even the worst yaoi out there. and i barely consider those ones hardcore anymore