I understand the people who still dislike him... but for me, I really pity him. We all make mistakes and have regrets. I remember making a long post a while back about how I believe his choices were reasonable when you think about how he was also abused and neglected. But I pity him now because we've ALL done something to hurt someone else. We've ALL made choices that helped ourselves while beating someone down, even if you didn't realize it or do it maliciously. But he has a second chance to change it all. He's repenting. He's trying to be better. He's trying to redeem himself because he's in the know that he was terrible. He's not avoiding his wrong doings. He's actively trying to learn and be a part of the resolution. That’s why he was reading books on marriage and parenthood. Thats why he confronted his father-in-law. That's why he put his ex-fiance in her place. He's doing what he can to make up for what he did before because he knows he was wrong and he sees that he can change. I love his character development and I find it just as powerful, if not more than the fl because he hasn't forgiven himself. His development is just as powerful, if not more because he know and understands he was in the wrong and he's trying to change. If I had the chance to fix a mistake despite being a terrible person and avoid the death of someone, I hope I won't be the only one who does.
What else do you expect? Why has he become the scapegoat? He was trying to survive in his first life. It was in the wrong way but he didn't know how he was supposed to survive! He was abused and neglected his whole life too! No one told him how to survive! He learned from those around him: his brother and step-mother. They stepped on people, including him, to survive. When he was given the chance, he took it! But now, he's realized he was wrong and is trying to make up for his mistakes! He's trying to change. What do you expect him to do? Do you want him to stay bad (so you can stay angry) and allow the fl to change him? That's not change works in a person. No one changes someone else. People change themselves, from the inside. The fl can inspire the change in him (that's exactly what happened) but only HE can change himself and that's what he did. What do you want from the story if you cannot extend empathy for someone who has seen the wrong he's done and is trying to change? Yes, it feels unforgivable because the majority of the story is in the POV of the fl who has her memories. But HE, the ml, doesn't know what we do. He thinks she doesn't remember and is trying to change! Any good person would try to fix their mistakes! I don't agree with everything he's done but I don't want to villainize someone who has seen his wrongdoings and is trying to change for the better.
I understand the people who still dislike him... but for me, I really pity him. We all make mistakes and have regrets. I remember making a long post a while back about how I believe his choices were reasonable when you think about how he was also abused and neglected. But I pity him now because we've ALL done something to hurt someone else. We've ALL made choices that helped ourselves while beating someone down, even if you didn't realize it or do it maliciously. But he has a second chance to change it all. He's repenting. He's trying to be better. He's trying to redeem himself because he's in the know that he was terrible. He's not avoiding his wrong doings. He's actively trying to learn and be a part of the resolution. That’s why he was reading books on marriage and parenthood. Thats why he confronted his father-in-law. That's why he put his ex-fiance in her place. He's doing what he can to make up for what he did before because he knows he was wrong and he sees that he can change. I love his character development and I find it just as powerful, if not more than the fl because he hasn't forgiven himself. His development is just as powerful, if not more because he know and understands he was in the wrong and he's trying to change. If I had the chance to fix a mistake despite being a terrible person and avoid the death of someone, I hope I won't be the only one who does.
What else do you expect? Why has he become the scapegoat? He was trying to survive in his first life. It was in the wrong way but he didn't know how he was supposed to survive! He was abused and neglected his whole life too! No one told him how to survive! He learned from those around him: his brother and step-mother. They stepped on people, including him, to survive. When he was given the chance, he took it! But now, he's realized he was wrong and is trying to make up for his mistakes! He's trying to change. What do you expect him to do? Do you want him to stay bad (so you can stay angry) and allow the fl to change him? That's not change works in a person. No one changes someone else. People change themselves, from the inside. The fl can inspire the change in him (that's exactly what happened) but only HE can change himself and that's what he did. What do you want from the story if you cannot extend empathy for someone who has seen the wrong he's done and is trying to change? Yes, it feels unforgivable because the majority of the story is in the POV of the fl who has her memories. But HE, the ml, doesn't know what we do. He thinks she doesn't remember and is trying to change! Any good person would try to fix their mistakes! I don't agree with everything he's done but I don't want to villainize someone who has seen his wrongdoings and is trying to change for the better.