You're absolutly right. But the one doing the abuse are often manipulator. Juste like in this story : because he tells him everyday that he is useless, he starts to think so too.
Like every abused people, 'you' sould not have let it happen. But it wasn't your fault, you didn't have much choice. You are a victim. It's not about being weak or strong. It's just that manipulative people are the worst : they know the best way to hurt you, to make you think they're actually what's best for you, to keep you for themself and to lock you away from anyone else.
I'm very sorry to know that it happened to you, and I hope that you'll never cross the road of another manipulative and abusive jerk ever again !!!
That is Obsession and Control for the abuser, and Stokholm Syndrome and Co-dependancy for the victim. NOT love. In NO WAY is that relationship love. And it is sad that the abuse victim thinks it is.
It is very sad. They are both screwed up and call it love. There may be lust and dependence and some sort of twisted love, but these two people need help, not more abuse.
this is fiction...
this story may be fiction, but some women, and even men, are being abused by their partners everyday. i get that it's for a story, but in some ways, it's romanticizing the abuse. abuse is not romantic and it's not love.
The people who say "this is fiction" clearly don't understand how emotionally invested some of us readers get in stories. We know it happens in real life, too, and it affects how we see the story. Some things as tropes we tolerate (we wouldn't tolerate any rape in real life if we're decent people) and wait for happy endings. But we still have emotional and mental reactions to things in stories. We don't read just "for fun." We read to feel.
Well said.
Waaah... After reading Kimid's comment, I could'nt managed to express myself in order to explain to her why it wasn't "just fiction". I never find the right words when it comes to describe the act of reading and the feelings it involves. But you just did it, in a magnificient way.
"We read to feel".
Thank you for that !!!
I am sorry if I have made you misunderstand. What I meant is that this manga is a wonderfull piece and the author did a beautiful job on making us feel these emotions, but don't forget this is fiction. Whenever I feel really emotional about things I have read I always tell myself that it was not real and was just made to make us teary. Hey, but that's just me. Whatever makes yourselves calm is best.
Ah! That makes more sense with the ellipses now.
hitting, punching, abusing is not a sign someone cares too much or loves you...it's the need to control. i was in a relationship like that once when i was a teen, and that was the ONLY one. i am lucky in the sense that it wasn't extreme, and that it was only a couple of times, but it shouldn't have happened at all. 'I' shouldn't have let it happen.