Not sure on which side you are, but you can't be kinky without some sweet juicy consent.
yeah i liked this before realising it could sit on either side of the argument, but regardless kinky is only hot when consent is involved. Otherwise it's just nasty SA
That's legit the biggest thing about kink. You first need to set up boundaries and stuff - a lot of people in the BDSM community do actually recommend a sort of a written contract where you note down your comofort level with different activities.
Just saying.