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Evie (JAYFG/IAYGFN) July 21, 2021 6:22 pm

So I see that there is a debate in this comment section about whether this is rape. The answer to that is "no." Within this specific case, the female lead is ok with it.

This is not rape because she is ok with it. The following reasons I have seen are not valid:
-they are married --> married couples can still rape each other
-they fucked before --> they gave consent before, that consent was valid then, however it does not entitle them to sex at any time, anywhere.

All that truly matters is the fact that she is an adult human who is ok with this taking place.

But here is the thing, when the ML touched her sexually while she was asleep, he could not know whenever she would be ok with it or not. Sure, they had sex before but she may not want to fuck him now. This is a very bad move on his part as he was taking a huge risk.

However, if you're into this, you could simply have a talk with your lover - set the rules and boundaries and so on (e.g. ya we can do that but not on X day). That way you can get prior consent (which is how you avoid the risk zone.) It should be noted, that if you or your partner changes their mind - this arrangement is to stop at soon as one of you decides they aren't into it anymore (since that's a retraction of consent.) If you guys do that, you're in the green, happy safety consent zone.

If you decide to get involved in something more extreme (like BDSM) then I suggest that you get yourself a document with different activities and note down your comfort level with those activities (super useful if someone tries to gaslight you.) Other than that, have a good day and enjoy your life.

-Yours sincerely, someone who has to deal with the idea of consent a lot.

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    Mae143 July 22, 2021 2:59 am

    Omg thank you finally someone who understands CONSENT AND COMMUNICATION ARE ESSENTIAL in these situations… technically speaking he DID indeed sexually assault her but SHES okay with it but please in real life DISCUSS your boundaries BEFOREHAND!!!!

    Evie (JAYFG/IAYGFN) July 22, 2021 12:02 pm
    Omg thank you finally someone who understands CONSENT AND COMMUNICATION ARE ESSENTIAL in these situations… technically speaking he DID indeed sexually assault her but SHES okay with it but please in real life... Mae143

    Agreed. I honestly wished that there was more in-depth education about consent. Instead, people get told some of the basics and then become insanely confused.