this tbh,
I keep seeing so many people shit on Chungi/green haired guy but I think it is valid for him to feel uneasy/lonely at how Jiho treated being gay as something to hide, and I also think its valid for Jiho to feel scared about being found out, because I have been on both ends of this experience before and it is definitely a complex and frustrating thing.
That being said they both definitely did toxic things to each other, Jiho technically used Chungi, and Chungi was trying to interfere with Jiho and Inwoo's established relationship.
Inwoo is also not perfect, he has his own set of flaws to, like you said he is anxious and has attachment issues as a result of his childhood trauma.
I think the way the author has written these characters is done very well and in a very realistic manner, the characters are not perfect and have their own flaws which they will need to confront and address in order to grow and develop, as individuals, and also together as a couple (for Jiho and Inwoo).
This was a good read! I wanted to add my two cents so far.
I feel like people are quick to call the green hair guy toxic, but I feel like his reactions are quite normal. I feel like he knew all along he had some type of feelings for our MC. Towards the beginning of the story he said something like “he isn’t staying over at that guys house, means I still have a chance.” I imagine he kind of had already given up because MC was so in the closet with no signs of wanting to leave it. So when he saw that the MC was changing for the sake of someone else, ir hurt him. I know they weren’t technically dating, but going out or having a situationship with someone in the closet is hard. All the things he ended up saying were out of hurt/reactionary. On the flip side, our MC probably also had feelings for green haired guy at some point, but because green hair guy was never “serious” and kept sleeping around, MC felt safe to stay with him because it would never lead to anything serious. Their relationship was each others safe spaces at the time. They were friends with benefits and nothing else.
Now I feel like green hair guy is in a little bit of denial and in self destruct mode. If MC can change that much for someone else… then all he has to do is be more like Inwoo to win him back. Maybe from here on out we can say that green hair guy is being a bit toxic, before this I didn’t think so because MC wasn’t being great to him either. So if anything they were both toxic to each other.
Inwoo on the other hand is a classic anxiously attached person. He is doing anything and everything he can to keep MC because, because of his trauma, he is always low key waiting for people to leave him. So he has to do everything he can for them not to. Believe me we’ve all been there. Even if that means doing things you don’t want to, ie, telling MC to go on the blind date. He won’t get over his trauma until he is able to address the abandonment issues. What he is doing tho Can also be considered manipulative because he isn’t being genuine. And people pleasing is a form of manipulation imo. I’m curious how they’ll go about having him over come it.
Anywho! All that to say that the author did a good job in showing us how everyday people deal with real issues. It felt very believable and it was refreshing to see these concepts fleshed out so well!