I really hate this kind of scenarios from the bottom of my heart and this happens in real life too. Like I understand the uke's point of view at some degree but being that indecisive as hell really what gets me? Like atp you're being so selfish and greedy for your relationships because you can't choose your final choice. Like if he knew ex seme's behavior at least he shouldn't have gone and talked to him as if he expects everything's gonna go well after he just coerced you?? But like i still try to understand that oh yeah you love him, yeah maybe you just wanna see him again. But at least man up or idk because every individual have different constitutions but at the very least have the courage to step up and find a way. I understand that he was forced to have sex w ex seme again. but the saying that if you really want to, you'll really find a way no matter what it is. If it comes to the point of that forced sex. Hard no, do everything you need to do to get out of that, punch him, kick him in the groin, then run or flat out just scream no sternly then run. Oh but he's in love w him that's why he's a bit hesitant. This is what I precisely hate with scenarios like this. That's why i said its selfish and greedy because you also dragged along shougo with your indecisiveness and that just hurts everybody. Because at some point you can't expect for that person to welcome you back everytime? That's why everytime the uke says why didn't i just tell him, i should've told him....yeah why didn't you? It really just takes one courage to finally end things, just one. Yeah but it was a toxic relationship and he's used to that so it gets a bit hard for uke to stand up against it, he was manipulated and scared to fight against it. Yeah like I understand but really like if you really want to, you'll find a way that's all i can say. Cuz like its really YOU that can fix things, its just YOU that can help yourself after all, no matter how much you try and ask for people's help. Yes they can help you everyday, every night, all the the time but if YOU don't do anything yourself, nothing's really going to change is it? Omfg idk why im getting so heated, i know that these types of scenario that happens in real life. That courage takes like months or years to happen and I'm really proud of people who was finally be able to step up unlike those people who wallow in it, blame everything, blame themselves, milk the situation to other people "for help" but ultimately doesn't do anything themselves. There's only a limit to how a person can help you, bcos at some point it gets tiring as fuck if it just keeps happening and happening and happening again. I understand that people who blame themselves is some sort of product of the situation (atp go get therapy. Actually don't even let it get this bad.) but its all a matter of really stern mindset. You can keep blaming yourself but how are you gonna get out of the situation you're blaming yourself for? It's unfortunate that it happen (whatever that may be) and it really deserves justice or it deserves to be fixed/help but you have to KEEP MOVING ON, finding that way out of there. Take it as a learning experience that YOU SHOULDNT do again.
I really hate this kind of scenarios from the bottom of my heart and this happens in real life too. Like I understand the uke's point of view at some degree but being that indecisive as hell really what gets me? Like atp you're being so selfish and greedy for your relationships because you can't choose your final choice. Like if he knew ex seme's behavior at least he shouldn't have gone and talked to him as if he expects everything's gonna go well after he just coerced you?? But like i still try to understand that oh yeah you love him, yeah maybe you just wanna see him again. But at least man up or idk because every individual have different constitutions but at the very least have the courage to step up and find a way. I understand that he was forced to have sex w ex seme again. but the saying that if you really want to, you'll really find a way no matter what it is. If it comes to the point of that forced sex. Hard no, do everything you need to do to get out of that, punch him, kick him in the groin, then run or flat out just scream no sternly then run. Oh but he's in love w him that's why he's a bit hesitant. This is what I precisely hate with scenarios like this. That's why i said its selfish and greedy because you also dragged along shougo with your indecisiveness and that just hurts everybody. Because at some point you can't expect for that person to welcome you back everytime? That's why everytime the uke says why didn't i just tell him, i should've told him....yeah why didn't you? It really just takes one courage to finally end things, just one. Yeah but it was a toxic relationship and he's used to that so it gets a bit hard for uke to stand up against it, he was manipulated and scared to fight against it. Yeah like I understand but really like if you really want to, you'll find a way that's all i can say. Cuz like its really YOU that can fix things, its just YOU that can help yourself after all, no matter how much you try and ask for people's help. Yes they can help you everyday, every night, all the the time but if YOU don't do anything yourself, nothing's really going to change is it?
Omfg idk why im getting so heated, i know that these types of scenario that happens in real life. That courage takes like months or years to happen and I'm really proud of people who was finally be able to step up unlike those people who wallow in it, blame everything, blame themselves, milk the situation to other people "for help" but ultimately doesn't do anything themselves.
There's only a limit to how a person can help you, bcos at some point it gets tiring as fuck if it just keeps happening and happening and happening again. I understand that people who blame themselves is some sort of product of the situation (atp go get therapy. Actually don't even let it get this bad.) but its all a matter of really stern mindset. You can keep blaming yourself but how are you gonna get out of the situation you're blaming yourself for? It's unfortunate that it happen (whatever that may be) and it really deserves justice or it deserves to be fixed/help but you have to KEEP MOVING ON, finding that way out of there. Take it as a learning experience that YOU SHOULDNT do again.