You kind of just answered your own question. They’re not the same, they’re flipped. A harem (in manga terms) is a group of women surrounding one character, usually a man, and a reverse harem would be instead a group of men surrounding a character which is usually a woman. Although similar it would make sense not to put the harem tag on a reverse harem manga. I agree that we should have a reverse harem tag, but in the mean time you can go to tags(not genre tags lol) or lists and look up reverse harem. I’m sure you’ll find a lot!
Yeah I guess I did answer my own question. I thought people consider it the same since a lot of older reverse harems are still tagged as harem. Haha I only asked because I wanted to avoid reverse harems as well. Since most stories aren’t tagged, it’s frustrating when any (reverse) harem tropes are suddenly slammed in the story I’m reading.
Sorry I forgot to answer the most important part of your question!
I don’t know if you’ve read it or not (hope not) but here’s one of my favorites. Stays away from the annoying cliches, no harems or reverse harems. Beautifully well written characters.
https://www.mangago.me/read-manga/i_picked_up_the_second_male_lead_after_the_ending/
Why are most reverse harems not tagged as harems? Aren’t they the same, just with the genders flipped? If not, I hope there’d be a reverse harem tag to filter out. I’m not a fan of harems in any way, so I usually avoid reading them.
Any new series with a good story and no harem or any of those cliches?