Very common, I've seen an intelligent person become the most brainless when it came to a broken heart going back to the same guy 36 times thinking it could work again, but seeing it doesn't. =_= Like I, a sane person, pointed out the wrongness, but nah dumbness wins.
As you said, when you're groomed that way, then you do respond the way you're expected. Took the person I said before 10 years of an unhealthy live choice to realize when I decided to cut ties for her to wake up and realize something was wrong. I'm not one to verbally cut ties unless you did something so unacceptable that there is nearly no redeeming yourself. The last guy was the breaking point when I had to call the cops twice on the same dude because my life was now on the line.
Looking into programs to help and seeking the aid to turn your life around is the best case, but you can't just push someone to clean their act. They have to be willing to seek change. She's gotten the help, everyone supported her through it, she almost slipped up, but after 8 more years she is clean of all drugs, no longer drinks, and has made sure to treat herself better. A single bad case that can send your world spiraling in this "groom" state can really wreck your life. Finding the right people to be your support helps.
We can only hope our two broken fools can be each other's support and grow to be more healthy mentally. It'll be quite the plot to watch them.
no it actually was stupidity. he literally wasn’t brainwashed or groomed. he had successfully escaped and successfully stayed away for years even when he wouldn’t leave mc alone. being common doesn’t mean it’s not stupid. and his stupid decision to go back to the person who raped him judt to make ml mad does not mean it’s his fault he was assaulted, nobody is saying that. it’s stupid bc it didn’t have anything to do with the ex forcing him to come back.
He's arrested for drug possession instead of sexual assault now he'll definitely get jail time
Also sick of people calling the MC stupid going to shitty ex for sex after heart breaks is such a common thing and it's incredibly common for people to go back to abusive ex's even after they escape it's not stupidity that keeps people doing that it's brainwashing and grooming also how the hell was he supposed to guess this man would have date r*pe drugs of all things common
I'm tired of people blaming people for situations like this when the blame lies entirely on the perpetrators