I kinda don't like her. I liked her at the beginning, but she's reaching that dreaded terr...

im actually devastated by this :C i dont want to hate her but fls who get dumbed down for love is so annoying to me im crying i love her but i hope the author wont go down that path

honestly i was thinking the same. its so lame, like she is not a 6 years old kid who doesnt know anything about life. common. #－.－)

It's frustrating because she's shown to be politically smart and is capable of navigating social situations cleverly, meaning she can understand complex social queues as complex as she's able to navigate the court and decipher hidden intentions. Except when it comes to him. And it's not even just "the romantic part". Even when he's clear about his intentions or him being sarcastic, she's suddenly dense.
My main issue is fucking up a good female character to put her in this box of pureness that makes no fucking sense

THIS !!! well... what can we expect... this is a light novel so our frustrations have to go to the original author, this one cant do much about the cliche route, we are just gonna have to wait and see the development. ┗( T﹏T )┛

Her arrogance is in thinking she should be able to lead her people on her own, without any help.

The problem here isn't her but you. You don't understand how human works, how people works. This is the only possible and logical outcome of growing up like she did. It'd have been weird if she did know about love when she grew up surrounded by war and politics, and with the leader role at that.

i agree with this though i feel like her purity is a little bit too on the nose. yes i completely understand acting like a fool when you start liking someone, especially in her case where was born into war and all the men around her were like her family. however, what i hate is that even outside of romantic scenes, whenever the ML says something quippy, she’ll ALWAYS take it literally for comedic value. like were supposed to go like, “OH! there she goes again with her stupid pure barbarian brain!” my girl is NOT stupid, and at the very least, she can sense the air despite not knowing whats wrong with what the person’s saying. why would u show those scenes after showing how well she handled the kings attempts at not paying her, and her leadership and kingdom managing abilities. THATS my problem. but i feel like her being dumb about her feelings is completely understandable. hell her pride being wounded for not being the sole savior also makes sense. i think the problem is she’s dumbed down for the male lead to shine during some moments.

As I said, it's not only the "romantic" moments but also when he's sarcastic and/or direct. She suddenly gets dense/stupid. She can interact with practically anyone except him. And it's not her getting flustered but her not getting social queues which she can understand otherwise. She gmhas a good brain, she's a good strategist and she can navigate social situations. Her getting tongue-tied for him to get his moment and for her to appear like just a cute barbarian that doesn't know life is insulting to say the very least

Hadn't thought of that. Thanks for pointing it out. I feel really stupid now (￣ε(#￣)Σ

I guess it's because the prince is arrogant like that so he naturally shine in his own perspective? I mean the perspectives keep changing every now and then. Maybe they did a better job at showing this in the novel.

Yeah, I don't love characters who are badasses on the battlefield but completely naive when it comes to love and sex. I don't care whether it makes sense for her background; the author made the choice to make her virginal and could have chosen differently. I guess it's a moe thing that some people like, but it's just exhausting to me. At least the men tend to be in a similar situation so it's not as much a sexist thing as usual.

Wat I don’t get it r u saying that you would have like it more if she wasn’t a virgin?

It’s one thing to have a preference for non-Virgin and non-naive FLs, but this isnt even about whether it makes sense or not with the character’s background (which is pretty odd because it basically means you don’t care about inconsistencies in storytelling). It simply makes sense with the setting. Noble ladies weren’t going around just giving up their virginity outside of marriage. She’s now given hers to her husband who is as clueless as she is about love.

Personally, I find everything about the FL refreshing. The way she received the women she thinks are her husband’s lovers is also just as refreshing. She sees her situation as objectively as she possibly can and is 100% goal-oriented. She hasn’t once given me a typical response. Even the way she struggles with her feelings isn’t all About the fact that she just now started having feelings for him, but because her pride/arrogance won’t let her be okay with just taking from him because she sees only herself as the leader of her people. Everything she does is for her people and because she doesn’t want to owe him anything whenever he does her a favor.

I do think that her character concept is brilliant and mostly well done.

Being sexually naive (whether she's an actual virgin or not) is one way that female characters are commonly, as one commenter put it, "dumbed down for love." Even those who have ostensibly lived a (notoriously bawdy and modesty-free) soldier's life. In this story, an attempt was at least made at justifying it, and the fact that her buddy and the prince aren't much better off makes it more palatable.

I like her a lot actually. I don't care whether she's an actual virgin or not. I should have said that I don't enjoy when confident women, who have been exposed to a very immodest lifestyle (like that of a soldier), are then presented as being sexually naive, blushing and stammering and whatever. It feels like the author is just trying to satisfy somebody's sexual fetish or check off a list of bad romance tropes. It's fairly well done in this story, but it's still done.