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I don't know but I think am LGBTQ+ y'all someone help me out I read same sex romance cause...

Your resident Bisexual March 17, 2024 9:18 pm

I don't know but I think am LGBTQ+ y'all someone help me out I read same sex romance cause it's hot and opposite sex romance just doesn't turn me on when same sex romance does but in real life I can't see myself with the same sex in a relationship but am also not attracted to the opposite sex am so confused. And all the time I try making out with the opposite sex it's so boring maybe that's why I still have my v card. Can some one tell me if am a homosexual or not

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    rin #1fan meat rider March 17, 2024 9:24 pm

    maybe youre aroace

    Gemma March 17, 2024 10:06 pm

    It’s ok to not have a defined sexuality. Also sexuality is more dependent on how you feel about people irl. Cuz with stories it could also depend on other factors.

    Tea dealer March 17, 2024 10:14 pm

    That is something you can figure out yourself with time ; please don't be anxious about it (easy to say I know I know). You can take your time and notice things as they come ; oh I did find them cute/pretty, they are good looking... I did like this experience/I didn't... Actually it's normal not to know. It's actually healthy ?? You're not sure about what you are and trying to put yourself in a box. To discover your preferences and yourself is a process (everyone experiences it !). I'm taking myself as an example : am I bisexual ? Biromantic ? demi, asexual, aromantic ?? I actually don't know... I was pretty anxious as wall about it but now, I'm like : I'll figure it out ? I'll experience things and I will live things that will bring aspects of myself I didn't know about. As for label, I go as Queer or bisexual because it's easier, but most of the time I say that I don't know. So maybe you can try to give yourself the space to notice, to change and to discover yourself without a duty to know now. But I get that its difficult in a society (actually I don't know where you're from but let's say the globalized culture) that is centered around/valorizes romantic relationships and sex.
    As for stories, it's also normal to have different tastes than with irl people ; a story made by someone which carries representations and wants to conveys a specific thing is bound to be different than reality. For example, the way it is narrated influences a lot the story : rape can be romanticized while it's absolutely like that not irl. Women can be depicted as shallow and not as well constructed as men, or that a reason female readers like BL a lot is because there is a balanced power dynamic between the two main protagonists, what I mean is there is no power difference based on gender like irl. SO what I mean is that reading is not the same as living.
    More practically, another thing that helped me was reading, hearing, talking with people who had similar experiences.
    I'm sorry for the long post I hope it helped

    Grogg March 18, 2024 12:50 am

    Don’t put pressure on yourself.
    There really isn’t a certain age when we are supposed to lose our virginity or figure out who we have been attracted to.
    Maybe you can start by looking into some sexual orientations, and see which one resonates most with you. Speaking to people in the LGBTQ+ community will be really helpful.
    I’m pan, always had an attraction to all sexes, but it took me a long time to recognize it as attraction.

    Take your time, you can change your orientation as time goes on and you get more experience.

    You don’t have to always have to know. But its something you have to figure out on your own.
    Good luck (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    Gravenshi March 18, 2024 1:51 am

    You are just insecure. That's it. That's all. Move on. Have something else to worry about.

    Gemma March 18, 2024 2:03 am
    You are just insecure. That's it. That's all. Move on. Have something else to worry about. Gravenshi

    Undermining someone’s worries only increases insecurities. Don’t reply if you have nothing valuable to add.

    Gravenshi March 18, 2024 2:10 am
    Undermining someone’s worries only increases insecurities. Don’t reply if you have nothing valuable to add. Gemma

    What I said it is fact. They are just insecure. I feel the same as them. The only difference with them and me is that I don't label this feeling. It's just literary preference. Everything does not need to be dramatized : some stuffs are as simple as they are. Move on. It's just 2D reading. They don't even look like actual humans most of the time.

    Gravenshi March 18, 2024 2:24 am
    Undermining someone’s worries only increases insecurities. Don’t reply if you have nothing valuable to add. Gemma

    Your reply brings no value there. You are just b1tching me because you disagree with my statement. Not all feelings are valid. I am not going to confirm their speculations when they are obviously far-fetched. They wanted an answer : I gave them a big flat NO using more words than needed.

    If you want opinion from random strangers about something as personal as your sexuality with such general description regarding fictional characters, you gotta get a reality check. It's an insecurity. Even your bf would be skeptical enjoying BL, even though he were to watch it with you. Just move on. If you overthink it, it becomes an issue.

    Imagine questioning your sexuality over 2D characters instead of actual humans. Come on! It's the brain playing trick on you as it is always making quick and most often irrational association for the sake of making them.

    I do think everyday that jumping over the windows of my work wouldn't be too bad. I am not suicidal, but those BIG and WIDE windows are tempting. I read stories about defenestration. I don't really want to jump from there, but my brain is always associating the fascination I have for those stories with the peculiarity of the windows. Making those not make me suicid@l. It sure creates an insecurity when I give more meaning that it shouldn't. In fact, it just my brain making constant associations; the conscious human filters "what is worth dwelling about" and what is not.

    Your resident Bisexual March 18, 2024 10:22 am
    You are just insecure. That's it. That's all. Move on. Have something else to worry about. Gravenshi

    No you degenerate fuck am highly intelligent individual with more self worth then you will ever have. Excuse my language, I usually don't speak like this to people but I was trying to speak in a way a premitive hater like you would understand. You could have just scrolled but seeing as you have nothing better do with your life you choose to attack me. I wonder what my response was going to be

    Your resident Bisexual March 18, 2024 10:26 am
    What I said it is fact. They are just insecure. I feel the same as them. The only difference with them and me is that I don't label this feeling. It's just literary preference. Everything does not need to be dr... Gravenshi

    I can never feel the same as you, stop projecting. Am confused and seeking opinions of people of different people, and how does this even amount to insecurity??? Has the meaning of the word changed or maybe you lack basic human compression???

    Gemma March 18, 2024 7:54 pm
    I can never feel the same as you, stop projecting. Am confused and seeking opinions of people of different people, and how does this even amount to insecurity??? Has the meaning of the word changed or maybe you... Your resident Bisexual

    They’re definitely projecting their feelings on you. Didn’t even bother reading their crap reply lol. Good for you for exploring your self-identity.

    Gravenshi March 19, 2024 12:41 am
    No you degenerate fuck am highly intelligent individual with more self worth then you will ever have. Excuse my language, I usually don't speak like this to people but I was trying to speak in a way a premitive... Your resident Bisexual

    I am not a hater. Stop projecting.

    Gravenshi March 19, 2024 12:43 am
    No you degenerate fuck am highly intelligent individual with more self worth then you will ever have. Excuse my language, I usually don't speak like this to people but I was trying to speak in a way a premitive... Your resident Bisexual

    If you have highly sensitive question to random stranger here instead of talking with people who actually know you, you gotta get misleading and most likely disapointing answer. Instead of getting mad at me, see the big picture. I am not saying anything wrong, I am just not surgocoating facts for you.

    Gravenshi March 19, 2024 12:43 am
    They’re definitely projecting their feelings on you. Didn’t even bother reading their crap reply lol. Good for you for exploring your self-identity. Gemma

    Exactly! Move on!

    Your resident Bisexual March 19, 2024 5:50 am
    Don’t put pressure on yourself. There really isn’t a certain age when we are supposed to lose our virginity or figure out who we have been attracted to.Maybe you can start by looking into some sexual orient... Grogg

    Tysm I'll take my time

    Your resident Bisexual March 19, 2024 5:50 am
    maybe youre aroace rin #1fan meat rider

    Maybe let me do more research on what asexual actually means. . maybe that's what defines me

    Your resident Bisexual March 19, 2024 5:52 am
    That is something you can figure out yourself with time ; please don't be anxious about it (easy to say I know I know). You can take your time and notice things as they come ; oh I did find them cute/pretty, th... Tea dealer

    Thank you so much still a little confused but it's put somethings into perspective