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In my opinion, they're both in the wrong. Though Yohan is way more wrong than Mugyong, but...

Nemaki April 27, 2024 9:24 am

In my opinion, they're both in the wrong. Though Yohan is way more wrong than Mugyong, but still. You can't put your unecessary anxiete on your partner, he doesn't have to put up with it.You have to work on it, with or without your partner's help.
And it's wrong to say nobody will ever be attracted to you except your partner. That's not possible, cause if at least one person is attracted to you, it means other persons can too. So that's not reassuring to hear at all, and not respectful to your partner who is attracted to you... And it's wrong to believe that yourself. It means your self esteem is too low, and you don't have enough self respect. Your love social skills are not developped enough. And you also have to work on it.

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    damn_pests April 27, 2024 11:33 am

    yohan's problem is he's anxious because mugyeong doesn't express his love for him outwardly, that should come as a given with his personality but it does make you question yourself when your partner doesn't convey their love to you often especially in comparison to yohans lovebombing. i genuinely feel sympathetic for his very real problem he experiences but he's going about it the wrong way throwing tantrums like that is just not it

    Nemaki April 27, 2024 11:52 am
    yohan's problem is he's anxious because mugyeong doesn't express his love for him outwardly, that should come as a given with his personality but it does make you question yourself when your partner doesn't con... damn_pests

    That's true, but everyone express their love differently. Some like to say it with words, some would never say anything but take action instead.
    It's also a matter of balance in the couple. If one always do everything, always go after the other, then the other can tend to not do anything to express his love.
    Sometimes it's important to give space to the other, so that he can express himself too... at his own space.
    It's complicated, cause when you love someone and you like to show it often, it's not natural to refrain. But it can be necessary sometimes, for the well being of the other partner who is less expressive.
    Well anyway, it's complicated lol.

    damn_pests April 27, 2024 7:48 pm
    That's true, but everyone express their love differently. Some like to say it with words, some would never say anything but take action instead.It's also a matter of balance in the couple. If one always do ever... Nemaki

    i find myself on yohans side more often which is probably why i have a little bit of a bias however your partner should be able to confide in you their anxieties(mugyeong just writes it off as petty jealousy because its happened time and again which makes me believe they've never properly addressed this issue), feeling like your love isnt being reciprocated the same amount is quite a big deal for their 7 year relationship im ngl but yes relationships are complex and this is pretty good representation of that aspect.