Bro same, for me it was over my 18th bday. I'm filipino so we have this tradition for young girls turning 18 to have bombastic parties. Like quinceañeras.
Didn't want that crap cus i was introverted as hell. Og plan i made with my parents was going island hopping and a simple party but cus some old hag convinced them to throw a a proper debut, they changed their mind.
Till this day, i can't get over it cus that trip was planned months before the event. Felt like a clown put on a display, I did NOT want to be there. Got shit talked to behind my back by guests and entertainers cus i looked faked as fuck with my strained smile.
Ouch I am introverted as well and I dislike the idea of inviting all of my relatives but I had to do it for money I also dont like debut cause you will receive a lot of criticisms about your body, academics, your future lovelife, etc. like leave me alone!!!! But what made me just get this over with is only moneyヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~ Im not obsessed with money I just wanna yknow spoil some of my special love ones yknow and buy some of my fave stuffლ(´ڡ`ლ) but anyways, my debut is coming up and I hope it wont be worse like yours or worst than yours I just want it to end peacefully (/TДT)/ and my deepest condolences about what happened to your debut ╥﹏╥
Yo legiiiittt the whole time during the prep for mine, i hid in my room or at the balcony lol, i saw that shit coming miles away. Only small greetings and hid somewhere. During the after party, i was at the porch doodling/gaming while everyone was getting drunk/dancing
In the end, the party went wrong/was bad for me cus of the broken plans/promise. So i'm sure your party will be better compared to mine
Tbh I also started having trust issues when my parents lied to me about me telling the truth and they wont confiscate my fave candy but when I did what they told me to, they confiscated it in the endヽ(`Д´)ノ
Up until now, I cant still move on#-.-)