my first BL I can't completely follow :_(

everyone's in the same boat I see

LOL, exactly
I'm trying and I think I sorta get the story, but who is the noblewoman and who tf died in this chapter?! I just can't recall who these characters are or in which chapters they appeared... ╮(￣▽￣)╭

I gave up trying to uderstand a while ago, now I'm just vibing

My advice, read once when it is completed, I binge read and now only 2 chapters are left I understood 98% of the story, it is a kind of slow pace healing for uke, he is confused and lost that's why the story may seems confusing and unable to follow but when you focus on small things, you will understand most of it and will enjoy it...
But, it is also matters on the taste