Normalizing breakup is not necessarily a good thing to do. there’s this thing called self fulfilling prophecy. always thinking ‘we’ll eventually breakup’ will only cause a breakup because you do not have the mindset to fight for the relationship. If my bf wants to talk about what what we should do if we breakup will make me think ‘this guy is not interested on being with me long term’
Anyway, what I think we need to promote is moving on in a healthy manner. No obsessing or clinging to a person who is no longer interested. No excessive drinking or partying or sleeping around etc
I mostly agree with you. I think “always thinking about breakup” is too much. Overthinking about anything is unhealthy. But it’s not a bad thing to discuss about it or be prepared. You don’t think the person is in it with you for the long term because you unconsciously associate breakup talk = not serious. Obviously it depends a lot on the tone of the actual talk and the nature of your relationship plus other factors.
I think my partner and I talked about how there’s no guarantee for “forever” around 3 months into our relationship. We both agreed. 10 years later we are still together. Like all tough discussions, a certain level of open-mindedness can keep it in the right direction.
It happens. People grow apart. Some do, some don’t. While it’s sad, it shouldn’t be something you felt like it’s a taboo to even talk about with your partner. Plan for it, even, so if it ever happens you are prepared.