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Seeing how he also contributed to said trauma and was happy to see Shiwoo get kicked when he was down, Taerim should be the one begging for the relationship. If Shiwoo is insecure it is be cause Taerim made all decisions one-sidedly. No one on this planet would enter a gay relationship with a chaebol and expect them to marry considering how those families work. So it’s not just Shiwoo being insecure, it’s also just common sense. Taerim is expecting Shiwoo to expect a miracle.
That said, Taerim also made it quite clear at the “end” of their relationship so Shiwoo should be more aware by now. I don’t think it’s fair of Taerim to dangle that in front of Shiwoo though.
I agree with you but this is only 50% of the problem. The other 50% is that Shiwoo is always ready to break up, he has one foot out the door at all times. Would anyone be cpmfortable dating someone who would break up and let you go as soon as you say 'lets break up'. Shiwoo dpesn't think he should be holding onto a relationship with Taerim if Taerim wants to let go, which is a good thing the relationship ought to go both ways. But the problem lies in the fact that Shiwoo would never try to work it out or fight for your relationship. When you consider the stability one gains from being in a relationship, Shiwoo isn't exactly a stellar partner to be with. The problem is not the trauma or his insecurities but his absolute refusal to even try to work on them.
Shiwoo definitely has trauma and problematic mentalities which prevent him from having a serious relationship, but my point was that Taerin seems to have a clear understanding of Shiwoo’s complex relationship trauma and self esteem issues, but still expects him to behave like an average person who doesn’t have those issues. I know you can’t grade relationships on a curve, but he should understand that it will take a lot more self work, trust building, and external validation for someone like Shiwoo to be able to have a normal relationship
The political and social norms have a lot more to do with why Shiwoo doesn’t want to put both feet in.
So Taerin straight up states that he knows that the power imbalance between him and Shiwon is lopsided, then proceeds to call it off because Shiwon is behaving in a manner that suggests that he is hyper aware of that imbalance. I get that there is affection, but Shiwoo has major trauma related to exploitation, so he’s just trying to protect himself emotionally by yielding all deciding power to Taerin. If their relationship gets exposed, Shiwoo has much more to lose. He is just barely gaining some confidence and emotional stability, so his mentality isn’t a slight against Taerin, but rather a survival mechanism reminiscent of his low self esteem and prior trauma. Since Taerin is aware of all the toxicity and trauma he endured, he should just focus on making Shiwoo feel secure in the relationship and understand how things are different now