Okay yall. Let’s chill and reread her explanation. While I also agree that her explanation was kinda weak and could’ve probably been written better, the crux of her explanation is that being “different” is lonely. She sees herself as different and can’t fit in with her friends despite their shared interests due to her trauma as a neglected child. She said her friends had “normal lives with loving parents” (not a direct quote) while she lived an “abnormal” one with her grandmother and abandoned by her parents. It was “painful” being the odd one out. SO she didn’t want her older brother to experience the same thing as her: being rejected by everyone because he was dating another man.
She clearly needs therapy because based on what she’s said about them, her friends seem decent. They share a common interest and were willing to celebrate the whole day with her. Clearly she’s feeling some major imposter syndrome and pushing her friends away even tho they probably don’t even know why. She mentions she kinda ghosted them. In other words, she’s lonely but it’s of her own making. Instead of opening up about it to her friends, she keeps up the facade that she also has a loving family and makes herself an outsider because no one else knows. At least based on her story, no one is actually ostracizing her because of her trauma. She’s doing it to herself. Also she can’t support them because she doesn’t want to be “different”, which she would be if she supported them because she’s foreseeing them becoming ostracized for dating.
TLDR: the crux of her explanation is that being “different” is too lonely and hard, therefore if the town people found out about haebom and ho dating, they would be ostracized. And because she wants to fit in, she can’t support them.
Okay yall. Let’s chill and reread her explanation. While I also agree that her explanation was kinda weak and could’ve probably been written better, the crux of her explanation is that being “different” is lonely. She sees herself as different and can’t fit in with her friends despite their shared interests due to her trauma as a neglected child. She said her friends had “normal lives with loving parents” (not a direct quote) while she lived an “abnormal” one with her grandmother and abandoned by her parents. It was “painful” being the odd one out. SO she didn’t want her older brother to experience the same thing as her: being rejected by everyone because he was dating another man.
She clearly needs therapy because based on what she’s said about them, her friends seem decent. They share a common interest and were willing to celebrate the whole day with her. Clearly she’s feeling some major imposter syndrome and pushing her friends away even tho they probably don’t even know why. She mentions she kinda ghosted them. In other words, she’s lonely but it’s of her own making. Instead of opening up about it to her friends, she keeps up the facade that she also has a loving family and makes herself an outsider because no one else knows. At least based on her story, no one is actually ostracizing her because of her trauma. She’s doing it to herself. Also she can’t support them because she doesn’t want to be “different”, which she would be if she supported them because she’s foreseeing them becoming ostracized for dating.
TLDR: the crux of her explanation is that being “different” is too lonely and hard, therefore if the town people found out about haebom and ho dating, they would be ostracized. And because she wants to fit in, she can’t support them.