If she was the same as his father, she won't cry and feel guilty for Shuri's dead. Ohara doesn't expect that Shuri would get assassinated, instead, whether Ohara did that to Shuri or not, that fricking Cardinal will find a way to kill her nonetheless.
The reason I said she is like her father is because, she choose to put herself interest first and only “cared” after the fact. Just like right now the dad is choosing his own self interest by not helping and I bet once shuri win this trial he gonna make excuses on why he couldn’t help and they need to be understanding. When she sent Shuri away she didn’t think about Shuri feelings, it was like she didn’t see Shuri as Jeremy family, because of the rumors going on about Jeremy liking Shuri.
I’m okay with your father calling off the marriage, knowing what she did in the past it’s like even though she dislike her father she is the same as her father.