Is this what u called avoidant attachment???

Yep. Been through this with my ex. His fears won out in the end. It almost always doesn't work out without ppl like this doing some serious work on themselves

:'(

yeah, this kinda happened with my last relationship with a guy of my grade, he liked me and actually I didn't like him all that much but he was really nice to me. but I knew we wouldn't last due to circumstances with boundaries and wishes so I broke things off with him.