WTH, I DON'T UNDERSTAND

If he doesn't knew her when she was literally a baby then that's fine ig BUT
he watched her from she's a little kid
That's weird af

You don't develop feeling of romantic love towards someone that you watched grow up from kid, familial love is more appropriate tf

exactly, the age gap isn't even that much it's actually 5 years, BUT it's weird af how he was an adult when she was a kid and he saw her grow up and saw her as a kid all this time and then the romance started when she was still a teen and he an adult, that's weird af. I have friends that their younger siblings are adults now, but I still see them as little kids in the back of my mind, that's just normal when you watch someone grow

According to Google when she first appeared she was 11 or 12 years and he was 18. Everyone keeps forgetting that it is a fantasy where she's technically 31 on the inside when they first met because she was 23 when she died and she regained her memories when she was 3 plus she's 11 at the very least when she first came to the mansion. Moreover people dismiss completely the fact that in some cultures an age gap this big is completely normal and sometimes expected. Yes they met when she was younger but that doesn't necessarily mean grooming for example in many parts of the world people marry their childhood friends and cousins or sibling's friends and it is completely normal, sometimes and I repeat not all the time We have to judge situations by the standards of the other party, not our standard. My only problem with the male lead is there countless times he made the wrong choice and hurt her in the name of protecting her he could've communicated better but at the end of the day it is still a fantasy that is supposed to be not realistic and without the wrong choices they wouldn't have been the same amount of conflict which drives every story