the amiguity comes from they was they introduce each toger to other ppl. Like if they simply just say oh that just my roommate, ppl will be oh ur room mate thats cool. Or like your acquaintance friends lovers cool.
Btw saying roommates even if they are comfortable to live together or feel like platonic soul mates wont box them to anything or simply saying friends or aquanlainces
The misunderstanding comes from the fact that they lowkey try to dodge saying taht when introducinge ach other to other ppl wayyy too similar to when other like all the same signs of hiding a crush or lover.
Like its not one thing or other but like majority. That's why ppl misunderstand, and the fact that florist mc is wayyyy to quiet and reseverd and disnt seem to outright b like thats my roommate or friend, and the whole working up thing when ppl thought they were lovers or its a crush.
Just say my soulmate. idk it feels like its a soul connection bordering love i suppose?
As a person who has been in a similar relationship two different times saying friend/roommate DEFINITELY does not solve the problem. You pretty much get either-
People treating your relationship as a totally casual temporary thing. A holdover until one of you starts dating someone. It's weird if you prioritize each other, it's weird if you do the non-romantic parts of being a couple together, it's weird if you aren't trying to move on to dating or marriage with someone. The number of people that were surprised when I took a friend to the HOSPITAL and stayed with them + got their stuff for "just a friend" was astounding.
OR the inescapable "oh so you're roommates ;)))" because again, people just can't comprehend the most important person to someone not being romantic or familial. You can tell people you're friends for hours but if you're close enough they just do not believe you.
Obviously not true for everyone you meet but the manga I think does a really good job of showing something that's very true to the experiences of a lot of people in relationships that don't fit into an easy societal standard box.
so r u saying that they treat them either like a friend or roommate but not both? then what about childhood friends? lowkey i get the bl / and 2d of most genres shipping culture, but irl? lowkey i kinda, want a relationship like this too (but minus the frustration of it being mistaken as love)
Friends and roommates most people understand- the part that people get confused by in my experience is that a friend relationship for me is just as important (and in a lot of cases more important) than a romantic relationship to me. A lot of people just believe that romantic relationships are inherently closer or more serious no matter how much you tell them otherwise.
But also I'm living with my best friend again rn and it's great! Other people can be annoying about it but ultimately rn she's the most important person in the world to me and it doesn't really matter that other people can't understand being that close to someone platonically. So if you have someone you feel that way about or just want a relationship like that it's def an option, you just gotta get used to people sometimes getting judgy/nosy about it moreso than if you're living with family or a romantic partner.
So basically deep profound bond or platonic love? But with exclusivity and commitment aspects as that of romantic love. Without the exclusivity and commitment aspect, i'd view it as deep profound friendship.
There's an intent to become partners. But that's not saying the former is deeper than the latter.
But anw I'll probably never understand what they have.
Totally random and an unneeded update: but i am moving out of my shared apartment, and it has yet to register within me, the weight of what that means. As mentioned in my original post, one of my roommates has become my best friend. It's funny because, at this age, i didnt think i would make any more best friends. But i did and i treasure her so, so, so much. I cant imagine living in a house without her; all of our shared moments like cooking together, eating together, or just being able to go to each other's room whenever we want. I've never met a person that has made me feel so comfortable.
So yeah, in a way, I get it. I get them. Me and my friend, we are both straight. Idk what i am, but i know that i appreciate what i have with my friend as something platonic. And i think it's alright that it is just platonic. Im writing this like as if anyone would care to read but i think this manga just hits close to home.
Now im leaving the country and moving far away from my friend. Whomever i go on to meet or date and live with, im scared that I'll hold them up to this standard ive somehow created. I wish i wasnt leaving. But thats life.
ngl i forgot about of this thread till i got mdg good luck and safe travels on ur journey :)
I live with two friends right now. One of whom I feel as though I could live my whole life with. Are we in love with each other? No, not at all. But do I love her? Hell yeah. I think their relationship might be confusing, all the more so to themselves as well. Especially if people keep putting them into boxes, keep making assumptions. I can't attempt to fully understand the feelings Arita has, but at the same time, I think I do. Love is so multifaceted. Platonic love or romantic love, it's all love in the end. What matters most is that you care for them, they care for you and you both fit well (to put it very simply).
I used to get confused with terms like aromantic and asexual. I think I understand them a little better now, yet I feel like it's also okay if you don't want to put a label to what you are what you feel. I used to think I was straight, then pansexual and now I agree more with demisexuality. Only to come to the conclusion that if I don't know, that's also a reasonable answer to have, at least to myself.
This was a nice read. For all sorts of reasons. I've been asked once about my sexuality and felt at odds with what I wanted to say, always. Now though, I think I'm content with saying nothing haha