The ex

At least he broke things off before they got married.

I think the reason why I don’t forgive him is because he didn’t explain before he left. He knew that an alpha partner abandoning their omega can cause semi-permanent or permanent damage to the omega and their bodily functions and yet still didn’t explain. He didn’t even send a letter to the omegas family, he sent one to his own family and put the fiancées family in a really really tough spot. He should have explained to the omega that he’s attracted to alphas not omegas and that he doesn’t think he can continue their relationship and that he’s going to run away to be with the alpha he likes. That’s the least he could do. I feel the same way about lavender marriages when the beard/skirt doesn’t know that they are being used and that there’s no future for the two of them. These are things you say up front. The omega could have died since a hormone/pheromone imbalance causes other hormones to become imbalanced and that can cause severe health issues including cancer and strokes. It’s a big deal.

Saying it out loud or talking about it doesn't always work, it is a cultural thing esp for those who are asians, it has been carved inside of their head from generations to generations that they have to put on with it and that their words have no value. Sure, I agree with you about the consequences he might have caused, but at that time I'm afraid he couldn't have thought about anything except for himself. It's fine if you don't forgive him bc that's your choice. Everyone has a life and personal viewpoint, I'm just saying here a point from a runaway (him). It is not always black and white.

One more reason is that if a person from party A is engaged to a person from party B, then one of them suddenly ran away, the engagement between two parties would normally proceed with another person from the party of the runaway instead of it being called off. They have already announced the engagement to their acquaintances and they need to keep faces, so they would first cool things off with that solution. That is why the ex thought he could leave and his brother could take over his place.

As someone who’s from a culture that’s not very progressive, I still would have told the person involved. I don’t care what his situation was like, to hurt a person and not even let them know why is disgusting. Had he explained himself, I would have been on his side 100% no questions asked. I’m pansexual myself so I understand what it’s like to be a minority and be scared to speak up but I still wouldn’t harm someone over it. The fact that he could have died and other stories do portray omegas dying due to rejection is something no one can deny. Had it been a case of just hurt feelings, I would have let it go but when it affects someone’s health, there’s no excuses that could make up for what happened. His mental health grew so bad he had to stay home after attempting suicide and his physical health wasn’t much better since he lost biological functions that keep him healthy and I’m sure that affecting other things. I have endo and pcos and those hormone imbalances affected every other hormone in my body as they tried to compensate. Even to this day and even with medication, I’m still struggling with a lot of hormone related issues including sleep, eating and adrenaline and thyroid problems. That’s why I said it’s a big deal. You’re only looking at it from an emotional standpoint. I’m saying he could have died. And if he did die, that would make him a murderer.

You're looking at it from an emotional standpoint. I said I could understand why he chose that option, I did not say I agree with his choice.

First off, the bottom's physical health is based on an ABO system which we don't have irl so anything could have happened according to author's will. We did not get a specific description of how and what the whole situation is so we only know he named himself 'malfunction' but it was mainly bc of his damaged emotion state. He had one belief, and one day his belief got scattered and he, for the first time maybe, felt that much vulnerable. Seeing that he's young, coming from a rich family and how he's treated even after the engagement cancellation, we can know that his family is actually caring and he doesn't get emtionally hurt that often, so of course he'd be devastated. I don't blame him.

Secondly, you said you don't care what his situation was and that's all there to it, you need no further reason to understand it logically with deeper backgrounds. Your choice is just different from his but you just can't see nor accept that there exist others than yours, whether it's good or not. You're coming from a not progressive culture but your background is not the same as his, objectively and personally. This whole story is just some description of how real life discrimination - social expectations - family names - bloodline importance etc in his world work. I explained the reason the ex thought to be the best at that point, but it seemed the bottom did not agree so he stayed single. That means alot, because if you don't have freedom and you're not respected in the family, you couldn't have had that kind of choice. And that also means the ex's situation is different from the bottom's situation. We already have this difference within the story alone, so of course there would be more of it outside.

We only get to see one side of the problem so it's normal we feel empathy with the viewpoint. But if you try looking at a bigger picture, you'll see that there are more than just one thing you're shown. You don't have to agree or disagree with all of them, just acknowledge that there are others that isn't always be easy to categorize something good or bad, right or wrong. But if you already decided for yourself, that's fine also, but please remember that it's your decision, and others might have their own as well.

And sadly but, I don't care if someone actually died in this story, be it the ex or whoever, unless that death does not contribute anything to the storyline. This is a fictional world where you can do anything, but if you're dedicated to making it a healing story, please stay with it. Luckily this one fulfilled its role and that's all I care.

Idk why my replies keep disappearing but anyways, in short, this is a fictional work but it comes from a person with real society problems knowledge, so please read it as a personal experience.

I said I could understand him, I did not say I agree with him. I know there are a lot of things in the background that made him decided that and that's something logic to him. You're the one seeing it from an emotional standpoint just bc you do not agree with his choice, bc you want him to at least saying it out loud. But you are different from him, objectively and personally. I too would choose another option other than his, and even yours.

You are deeply emtionally connected with the bottom, which is a normal thing bc thats sth we are shown. But in a bigger picture, we'll see that the reason he got hurt wasn't just from the cancellation itself alone, but because of his background and how he got the shock. I don't blame him, everyone has their own suffering bar rate.

It can not always be categorized right or wrong, yes or no, but it's something we just perceive as it is. It is a difference from a personal to family to even social and cultural level.

Idk why my replies keep disappearing but anyways, in short, this is a fictional work but it comes from a person with real society problems knowledge, so please read it as a personal experience.

It can not always be categorized right or wrong, yes or no, but it's something we just perceive as it is. It is a difference from a personal to family to even social and cultural level.