after having experienced shitting a huge tud so suddenly and my ass swollen for days, i became aware of the horrifying truth that a lot of ukes face and how it hurts so fkinnn baaddd, considering no prep and sudden thrust all in one for a character's first is so normalized. i don't even feel enthusiastic when encountering that type of situation in bl anymore, im mad and horrified, and im cringing from being able to feel that somehow
And remember that that’s it coming out which is the correct order of things. When it goes in, your body literally thinks it’s being attacked by the turd so it clamps down instead of releasing. Also, while the ass IS self lubricating, it doesn’t have a ton near the bottom of your ass and you’re not meant to feel the upper part of your colon at all so after deep sex, you feeling that is a horrifyingly weird sensation. Yaoi authors and artists don’t care enough about foreplay and prep and it’s seriously sad. I usually skip poor foreplay cause my ass clenches in sympathy lmaoooo
not the colon part you can feel some kind of sensation enough with shitting alone, like sometimes that weird ecstasy feeling that just reaches your heart or something, having experienced that shitty pooping time felt horrible like my organs like it's all connected from my stomach to my heart to my head to my spine that weird connected sensation i cannot imagine reaching that far and going in and out holy crap i can't imagine the actual reality time skip of those ukes having experienced that everyday, hemorrhoids at 30, a diaper and a walking stick at 40
You mean a wheelchair. I’m pretty sure if you have that much ass pain, you can’t walk even with a cane. I know that my first time was so painful that I just curled in fetal position for hours and couldn’t eat cause it hurt so I can’t imagine that for ages. You do eventually get used to it and now I need minimal prep cause my body immediately relaxes into it but it does take a long time to get to that point.
oh my god thank you for sharing this informational info then, i hope people who will bottom or even top in the future will see this and be more informed, i just can't imagine. i can't believe i used to enjoy the manhwa "triangle lovers" where both the top sandwiched the mc and reached the colon part both at the same time, the mcs first were also from getting sandwiched, now rereading it, it mentally hurts to see that man both ass and toes clenched asf rereading it. people who has experienced bottoming we're probably horrified asf reading manhwas like that this is maturing for me
I still love sandwiches but it’s not a “hey I thought of this today so let’s try it today!!” Kind of experience. That’s like a “hey so I wanna try this so let’s stretch you out over the next few months and my birthday is in 5 months so let’s try it then!” Kinda deal. Especially with XL dick. I’m a woman and DP (vag and ass) took me 4 months of training cause it just hurt too much to try sooner so I’d imagine 2 in the same hole would take longer. Also, you can only do this training when you’re really really relaxed or else you clench and get hurt so it’s usually an aftersex training where you’re a limp noodle and someone fingers you while a dick is inside you. I’ve only seen it properly shown in yaoi twice. I can’t even remember the names of the manga but it was 2 obscure manga that I read and it was only half right since they did it same day while MC was limp noodle. I hate that people think “let’s dump a bucket of lube on them and it’ll work out” cause that’s just not how the body works. Also the people who think water or saliva or even cum is lube… they need to be hit round the back of the head cause all of those dry out too quickly to be effective. I hope people DO read this and learn from it but I know most people will ignore sage wisdom from someone who experienced and to those people I say “fuck around and find out” lmaooo
so late, but damn i admire your dedication. thanks for educating us, i knew it would take a while but i didn't know that it would took months. that makes my heart break even more for those ukes that got their entrance destroyed
sucks you forgot the mangas i hope i encounter (and hopefully, become more mainstream) more green flag tops that knows how to prep and actually give their partner a good time. also for prep, i can't imagine with just saliva enough, but water? they better gtfo my face if i ever encounter that one, that shi hurttttts even more. so sad some people really did fucked around and found out lmfao, i'll def listen though
but oh well.. would you mind telling me how the experience with the dp is though asking as a fellow girly who's probablyyyy a liiiiiittleee too curious
At first it was a bit painful but I’m a masochist so I loved it. Once you get used to it, it’s kinda hard to go back haha! It’s a feeling of fullness that you won’t find anywhere else and anal orgasms are amazing even for women! I will say though, the order in which you start is important. For example, ass first pussy second is easy and doesn’t feel painful or difficult to handle but pussy first ass second feels like you’re prying yourself open and it hurts a ton (for me) and I can’t do it. It’s actually why it took a few tries for my ex and I (we used a toy with the same XL thickness as him) and it was a journey for sure. We did overstretch me both ways just to make sure I don’t feel any pain but obviously trying anything new is gonna feel uncomfortable! I recommend using a small toy to try first and gradually get larger. I started with the XL toy specifically because I had already done anal with him at that point so there was no point. I’d say if you are a masochist and you like the feeling of being filled up and can enjoy the anal aspect of it, I highly recommend trying it at least once. I’d love to try it with 2 dudes since it’s kinda hard to move the toy but both do the same thing internally at least! Will say though that you need to lube up the pussy too because otherwise you can rip between the pussy and the ass and THAT is not fun to heal and once you rip there, it’s super easy to keep ripping there.
help 2 dudes sounds fun, especially if they reach a certain rhythm where they both move simultaneously at the same time and everything's just kind of a flow state. i've heard plenty of stories too about how women found more pleasure from anal upon experiencing it. def made me less scared and even more curious now. i've always had this stigma with anal penetration, but now it def opened a new fun discovery for me. and shooks, ripping is def not gonna be fun.. i'll take note with every words you said, tysm !!
Anal as a woman is such a life changing experience. At one point I refused all vaginal penetration and only accepted anal. Now, I have a healthy mix of all 3. It takes a lot of work to prep for it but once you’re used to it, you can totally skip half the prep unless it’s been a while. Just have one orgasm first to relax and then get to the brink of a second one and that’s when you push in. It’ll throw you over the edge and you’ll not even notice any pain or discomfort. Also, I know that yaoi promotes no condom and I kinda agree but for a beginner, always condom. Until you’re used to it, any ridge or vein or anything will feel really strange and uncomfortable until you’re lost in the sauce. I hope you can explore your own sexuality and preferences without fear or anxiety. At the end of the day, if it’s not for you, it’s not for you but why deny yourself the opportunity to find out? Give it the good ol college try lol! And get anal cream. If you prep long enough, you won’t need it but the anal cream can help prevent injuries too by making you all soft down there and it won’t harm you if you use it without needing it!
omg thank you sososooo much !! if you've only accepted anal at some point back then, that must've been heavenly asf lmfaoo. i don't think i can do no condom even with vaginal penetration though i just don't feel secure lol, ig i'll just have to get used. starting with fingers and toys is def a great tip. thank you so so much, it has def made me more curious to my preferences, i'll def be able to explore those stuffs somewhere in the future, especially if it involves another person lol. but for now, i'll def keep in mind your suggestions, so helpful T T hopefully more people sees this to feel more secure with themselves and their preferences </3
Yeah I have an iud and I’m already considered practically infertile so I don’t really have that worry. Condoms are great and they protect you so don’t ever feel pressured to not use them! I’m glad I could help with any questions or concerns you might have had! I hope others can feel more secure too! Anyone can dm me any questions if you feel uncomfortable sharing on the comment thread btw! I might take a while to get to them but I do answer most of all dms <3
i hope you don't mind (please tell me if you don't tho!), but, may i ask where we can dm you? i might not message you now or next next month/year, but i feel like i'll need someone to talk about this stuffs too if i ever am curious or like yk that type of situation will come. his is like a little sister bond to me wth T T so sad i can't be open with my sisters like this bec it's def not normalized anything regarding sex, like some taboo but damn, they know well that they used to be in the same situation as i was, but ig it cannot be helped T T
If you click onto my profile and go allllllll the way down to the bottom, you’ll see a little card with my name, my never changed pfp and a thing that says “follow” and “send mail” or “send message”. Click the send mail button and you’ll need to do a captcha to send the message but once it’s done, it’ll stay there in your messages!
Also, I’m really open and honest about this when asked but fun fact: I’m only this honest because I’m training myself for when my younger sister (currently 4) will ask me all sorts of uncomfortable questions, I wanna be able to answer her and be someone she can rely on so that she doesn’t go elsewhere and get bad or dangerous information from someone else like I did. I know our mother won’t teach her it like she didn’t teach me it and I don’t want her relying on an older boy at school or something. So if you feel that from me, that’s what it is. I’m in big sister training lol
omgg i didn't know send mail/message was possible lol. i'll def reach out when im lost TT "big sister training" that's so great to hear from you haha, im sure you're trying your best so your lil sister can grow up more comfortably and secure with those stuffs. that will be nice, to have someone that you can rely on when adults, more specifically, parents, around you refuses to sit you down and actually talk you about important stuffs like that which can help you with future decisions. i'll def mail you some time to also help you with your "big sister training" !! tysm for this big sis !! ^__^ </333
Your first time doing anal will almost always hurt like your being split apart and it’s hard to breathe and it’s just shitty shitty shitty unless you add another stimulus to relax your muscles. It hurts cause your body is literally doing two actions at once, it’s trying to accommodate what it assumes is a really really large turd while also forcing it out so it’s closing itself at the top whenever you pull out and only opening where the dick is so you’re forcing it back in every time until your body relaxes into it. So please please please utilise other erogenous zones. I know yaoi likes to pretend that no prep, no foreplay and no additional touching is fine and anal only is a-ok for beginners but it’s really not. You need farrrrr more lube than you think is enough. You need so much that you think “uh I think I put too much” and then a bit more than that. You should probably get up to 3 maybe 4 fingers depending on how large the object is that is going inside and touch your erogenous zone during this so you can relax and enjoy it and learn what feels really good so you can hit that spot with the thing that’s being shoved in later. Not doing so can seriously damage your colon and asshole and that’s a horrible recovery considering that literal shit comes out of there and that’s not clean and sanitary so the chance of you getting an infection or complications is probably high. If you rip at all or feel pretty swollen, please use some anal ointment. It’s pretty cheap and really effective. And lastly, Don’t use yaoi as a how-to guide to anal sex! If you want a guide, check out bara cause at least that’s made by gay men for gay men!
Love yall and stay safe