I loved your statement here Mameiha. Also, when the sexual abuse started, he was very, very young. Children at that age don't really equate sexual misconduct as something bad if they are eased into it. Especially if they are rewarded for the service with food, for instance. After a period of time it becomes the "norm" and a way of survival. Only when they become older and are more immersed in societal behavior do they become aware of their prostitution being perceived as something "dirty". Some people don't understand the phrase, "Put yourself in someone else's shoes" either. If they could, they wouldn't make such disparaging comments. Perhaps when these youngsters are older and wiser ... LOL - Have a Blessed day ! T.
Thank you for your lovely compliment. You hit the nail on the head regarding sexual abuse that begins young. I have personal experience with this myself. I was six when my mother's boyfriend thought it was a good idea to "rent me out" to his nephew. At the time, this "uncle" was in his late 40s or early 50s. I was molested and violated for 4 years while alternating between being threatened with "If your mom finds out she will hate you and put you in foster care.", and being bribed with ice cream or toys. It wasn't until I was 9 that I realized that this kind of thing didn't happen to everyone. It took me another year to gather the courage to tell someone and put a stop to it. That situation ended, but my childhood in hell didn't. Since my mother refused to believe me, the boyfriend became my step-father. I spent the next 6 years paying for my "betrayal" through daily physical and emotional abuse. I can't judge anyone for making socially unacceptable choices because I know what it is like to feel completely helpless and what it is like to have to do things you don't want to because you have no other choice. As a child I always wondered why this had to happen to me. Now, as a middle aged adult, I know that all of this had to happen to make me the person I am. I like who I am now and, although I am certainly not happy these things happened, I wouldn't change anything. That childhood in hell gave me the tools to become the person I am today. I'm very glad that most readers have never, and will never, experience what I have. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. But I do think it is important that they have compassion for others and understand that not everyone is as blessed as they are. With age comes wisdom, right? LOL Thank you for your blessing and may you and yours be blessed in return.
It makes me want to remind all these first world, readers, who are blessed with the funds to afford internet service and electronic devices to access the internet, of a saying... "There, but for the grace of God, go I." The ONLY thing that separates you from the uke, and people like him, is your circumstances. Circumstances change and change quickly and they don't always change for the better. So, before you hop on your self righteous high horse to look down upon others, remember, that those roles could just have easily been reversed. With someone else looking down from their self righteous high horse onto you. And for those who exclaim, "I would NEVER do that!" or "That will never happen to me!" That is EXACTLY what every person who has ever done a terrible, humiliating and self-deprecating thing said right before their circumstances changed and they were forced to do whatever they could to survive. Sadly, those who exclaim the loudest and most vigorously that they'd "never do that" are often the first to resort to such measures. Selling yourself isn't that bad compared to starving to death. Ask anyone who has ever been forced to the brink of starvation. Someone who has always had a full stomach, a roof over their head, moderately competent parents, and/or access to financial help would never understand and it is for PRECISELY that reason that they keep their mouths shut. Don't pass judgement on circumstances you have never experienced and likely (hopefully) never will. The best response is, "I don't know what I'd do if..." because, quite frankly, you DON'T. Unless you've been there and done that, no one can say for sure what they'd do.