For example:
Murderous Llewelyn’s Candlelit Dinner
A Room Without Windows
Dead Man’s Switch
Death Match!
Should I Write You A Love Letter Instead?
Error Detected
Yang Il-Woo and I
Approximal Guide
Eternal Covenant
Nerd Project
Regas
Dazzling Breath
Dreaming of the Dokkaebi
I Think My Friend is Becoming the Demon Lord
Scandalous Wedding
Payback
Non-Refundable Alpha
Zero-Day Attack
Honbul: Flame of the Soul
Blood Poker
Paws & Claws
The Hunter Wants to Live Quietly
Frenemies: Thicker Than Blood
On the Bit
Unlock the Comfortable Confinement
Secretary Jin’s Confinement Diary
Netkama Punch
Park Hanhoo’s Manager
No, that’s not really what I’m looking for. I mean more like gap moe, where for whatever reason my expectations of the ML’s personality are subverted. Initially they might appear outwardly cold, angry, calculating, tsundere, etc., but in reality they’re a dope for their partner. Rape or violence toward them definitely isn’t part of it….
Another example I thought of is “I Declare Vengeance.” In this one the ML is a badass rich gang boss, but it turned out he’s been innocently crushing hard on the MC for years and is unexpectedly super sweet at heart.
Lol, don't worry I know what you mean. Btw you mentioned tsundere, but what you described is literally just tsundere, cold but actually warm. And what I mean is, tropes like this are super common. A lot of ancient yaoi is exactly like that. Since you need more recommendations, just look at the cover where the seme looks like a jerk (Or ML like u youngsters called it now)

Ahhh I love secret green flags like Taeyul (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ
SOMEONE REC ME MOREEEE!! I’m looking for something where you assume the relationship is super toxic, but the MLs are actually secretly green and devoted