real. when all's said and done, all juheon needed to do was hold firm to his belief of dohu who is heavily neurodivergent coded.
while dohu may have fuked up in some people' score, juheon CHOSE this battle when picking this guy to yearn for which in hindsight makes his post reveal actions a bit of a stretch when the chapters had been building up to him understanding how sincere dohu is when it really comes down to it, and his way of operating.
imo it also makes part of juheon's character growth seem useless. he still let the past shackle him when he had been firm on wanting to break free. it's as if author made him click on the least desirable dialogue option.
"My god. Is it really that bad to approach someone with weird asf intentions and then fall in love?" The issue was that the initial intent was a part of his trauma. Dohu crossed a boundary he couldn't forgive, so he broke up with him. Completely understandable. Just because you don't consider it a "bigger betrayal" doesn't negate his feelings.
Also, you’re not obligated to forgive someone. Dohu is the one pursuing Juheon, and while Juheon is clearly still in love with him, he’s actively trying to protect himself. It’s also likely that Juheon is avoiding Dohu because of his family situation, possibly facing pressure or threats tied to his sexual orientation.
EXACTLYY! This is just bad choices on the authors part, it didn't seem like complex character writing that can frustrate us readers but rather just bad choices that don't make sense for the character that is frustrating.
I disagree. If you read from the beginning, the writing is already on the wall. The course of the story is going exactly towards this direction, and there are so many foreshadowings that led to it. A lot of people focused way too much on the cause of their break up, but they don't realize that the reason for why they were even together was from a false premise that Juheon unknowningly built for himself. Juheon only started to get attracted to Dohu because he mistakenly believed Dohu liked him without any ulterior motive, something that he never had in life, hence why when this turned out to be false, it destroyed the very foundation of why he even ended up liking Dohu.
So you are asking why Juheon is still resistant to Dohu even if Dohu laid out his feelings out in the open. Trust is one of those things that it's easy to break and takes a long time to rebuild. I personally enjoy the slow burn of Dohu trying to regain Juheon's trust, and as you can see in the latest chapter, Juheon's wall is slowly collapsing. I think this is more realistic than a quick reconcilation, because 4 years is a long time.
Is it really though? Do you really believe Juheon broke up with Dohu because Dohu has crossed the line and he could not forgive Dohu? Or is it because Juheon made the preassumption that Dohu didn't love him and would one day abandon him, so he chose what he believed the safest way to protect himself? There are too many evidence that points to the latter than the former.
I mean, both things can be true. Dohu literally told him verbatim that he liked him once his initial intentions were discovered, which Juheon didn't believe since he didn't come clean in the beginning. It’s clear that Juheon has a strong boundary against people who lie or use others, and Dohu crossed that line.
Due to that crossed boundary, he no longer saw Dohu as someone he could rely on. Which is why Dohu is trying to get his trust back.
I don't like this. My god. Is it really rhat bad to approach someone with weird asf intentions and then fall in love? It deserves one charged fight and maybe a few months of a break. Not 4 years and continuing to be cold? Not if you already like the man. It makes no sense. Like if it was a bigger betrayal I'd understand but it's just a random asf novel that he was writing, not even published yet. It hit all his insecurities, sure, but he wasn't still operating on those ulterior motives, he was genuinely down bad in the later days.
Why tf is it still a problem then???? I mean, not forgiving them and moving on is a valid solution to that and it would make sense. If juheon got turned off and offended and left, It'd be understandable. But juheon is still pining????? If you still like someone, and they've already admitted what they did was wrong and the wrong thing they did wasn't that big of a deal when you zoom out and give it time, when they're still in love with you, why tf would you still feel betrayed over this???????
Indifference and disgust is understandable. Not pining and hatred. I end my case.