Can we not normalise r@p3

Yeah, I don't know why it's so normalized in mangas and manwha. Its pretty baffling to me. I think now since there's unfortunately so many series that include r@p3, people are just kind of desensitized to it. But it definitely is a problem and something should be done about it.

It pains me that we can't do anything about it. Considering that this question has more dislikes that likes.

unfortunatwly people think w they dicks instead of with their brains
it doesnt help that SA/r@pe is something that like.. some people really dont see it that serious until it happens to them, a lot of writers do not fundementally understand the psychological toll it has, many have a character get SA'd and they have sex after like everything is ok, or they'll cry deal w the police and its done, thats just NOT how it works. this ignorance and a lot of dubious consent being in yaoi, manhua and manhwa makes it more normalized, such as: characters who say "no" or say oppositional stuff "it feels weird" "it hurts" or cry and act miserable during sex when they like something, literally no one in real life actually says that because sex isn't normally supposed to hurt/make you cry. at the end of the day a lot of these are written to appeal to fetish/estabilished p*rn tropes, r@pe and dubious consent being one of them. honestly i see these tropes way more in bl than i do straight and gl.
unfortunate but yeah thats why i think its so normalized
sorry this if this is excessively wordy

I actually really like this analogy. I definitely agree with all its contents. I feel that as most yaoi readers are women, the uke being abused doesn't really command sympathy. Because they don't see themselves being in that position (same logic with omegaverse). It really irks me is that people take almost a psychotic pleasure is such obscene stories as long as it's not their community that's being harmed. Also another disturbing factor about yaoi is that the bottom is essentially a woman (i.e. physical characteristics of a woman), but it doesn't work that way irl. Being gay is two MEN being in a relationship, with the respective physical traits of men. Sorry if it doesn't make sense

as someone who's trans this is pretty obvious in a way that ive only realized more, y'know ive read yaoi back in the late 2000s early 2010s and the yaoi from then to now is pretty stark, for me at least being a weird trans kid yaoi and its and lack of judgement for its more feminine men did a lot for me, but now ive grown up its hard to describe. it just all becomes really obvious to see how much yaoi has gender roles baked into it, even down to height differences, age differences, the way their eyes are drawn, its so crazy.. and then you add lack of consent or characters being written to be dumb/powerless because "hehe what if he was crying" and it just makes it 10 times worse.
yaoi at its heart has always been for women by women. thats how its going to be, for better or for worse. feminine ukes and especially powerless ones are 'cute' and over represented because of that. i think it definitely has its place but hoo boy do i get really tired to see the featured or top 10 be yaoi with all of these things listed and very repeated tropes.
exactly why other m/m media like bara, types of yiff (furry), hell even art by tom of finland etc look *so* different from the many dynamics in yaoi (and by extension a lot of manhwas and manhua), like its just straight up capital M Men who like and have sex with other Men.

So anyways not saying everyone should be making trans yaoi but at least if everyone did it'd require people to actually analyze gender roles for once and make something interesting (I'm joking)

Thanks for the insight, that was an interesting perspective. Being active in this community i thought I was the only one who noticed these, I'm glad there are others that can agree :)