also i'm seeing people call eunoh poly but i'm not completely confident that he is? i read...

Hey, I just want to explain why many people like me, see him as polyam as a little headcanon, because it's not shallow imo. It is based in reading between the lines.

Eunoh's anger at one of his partner's having a girlfriend doesn't seem to be out of the fact that his partner HAS another partner, but at the fact he was being dishonest with him and not taking the relationship seriously. That's where the betrayal for him seems to lie and what he comments on. It was not at the presence of another person, it was the fact that person was placed above him and considered the more "serious" partner that seems to be his issue to me.

And when it comes to him speaking about wanting that monogamous relationship, that really could just be chalked up to conformity, and that's what I see it as. A lot of society and media, even in the queer community, tends to push finding THE one. That ONE other person that completes you. Only one.

To me, Eunoh saying he wants one partner despite finding love and little crushes in many people, might be because that's what everybody has lead him to believe is a proper relationship, and not what he actually wants. It seems to me he's never once considered entering a polyamorous relationship or having multiple partners that consent to each other in the slightest, not because he's realised it's not his thing but because monogamy is so prevalent in society he cannot see that... maybe he doesn't have to be monogamous? That there might be someone(s) out there who can accept he'll always love more than one person and that's okay?

anyway, that's just a more in depth explanation as to where polyamorous Eunoh headcanon comes from. Both analysis' of his character are decent in my opinion, and I wouldn't really care if he was monogamous or polyamorous. It's just a little fun in games.

ye i think many people are equating many crushes = wanting poly, but i grew up having many crushes, and the way i see him is that he has many crushes BECAUSE they are just that, crushes. all the people he has crushes on, he knows next to nothing about, they just caught his interest for a small detail and he latches onto that to fantasize a branch of possibility of them being the one etc etc

he exagerates his feelings but he's fine with having many small shallow crushes cause he has no real expectations of them leading anywhere (and his bad experiences with past partners also doesnt set a high expectation of people for him in reality), which is why he's also able to easily move on from them and get new ones, he just likes entertaining the possibilities in his head, but in the end is envious of having that one person to have an actual connection with at a deeper level than he's ever had

i like the idea of him ending in a poly relationship cause that's rare and would be entertaining to see represented, but what i interpreted from his behavior to me didnt say he's craving to be poly, and he, out of all people, doesn't seem like the type to only want monogamy just cause he's conditioned and its the norm or he hasn't thought of the possibility of having it otherwise, he seems like someone that doesn't see society's rules and literally follows exactly what he wants,

his problem is that he's seen as being a player and unserious when he's the opposite, and getting hurt by people who either dump him thinking he's unserious, or the other person is unserious and uncommitted to him

i think i would agree more with the interpretation of his feeling societally pressured to want monogamy over polygamy if that was presented anywhere in the narrative or in his monologues, but he never says anything about social expectations in regards to his relationship standards? it's more shown that he's bothered by his feelings not being viewed as sincere rather than him being bothered by not being able to be in relationships with multiple people. perhaps this is a cultural difference, but having multiple crushes is quite normal for monogamous people too

the reason why i said it's somewhat shallow to read this chapter and *only* come out of it saying he's poly is because there's more at play due to the fact that he is so prone to falling in love with basically anybody and that is what is causing the trouble for him when it comes to him seeking exclusive relationships, not any desire to be with multiple people at once. he even says in this chapter that he is devoted to the person he chooses which indicates to me that he doesn't have eyes for or interest in anyone else while he is in these relationships. i feel like this chapter was written to clear up the idea that he's just a player and reveal that it is instead a matter of him feeling like he should be able to peruse and choose freely without this causing a negative reflection of his character, but people will naturally not have warm feelings towards him if he intends to simply drop them once he chooses someone because then it looks like he's just trying people out like they're shoes before finding the "perfect fit." some people may not mind this, but others clearly will, regardless of how sincere he claims he is.

to be clear, this is NOT me saying he shouldn't be with multiple people, but i just don't think he's looking for that. he would be better off believing he doesn't need to seriously pursue every person he meets who piques his interest and that will make dating easier for him to raise his standards and narrow down his criteria. polygamy and monogamy are both relationship style choices that people make for themselves imo, with or without social pressure. i have never once thought about engaging in polygamy because i know myself, and it has nothing to do with what society expects of me. if that were the case then i wouldn't be gay lmao.

that goes beyond it just being because he wants to be with multiple people, in my very humble opinion. nonetheless, it's an interesting conversation to have. i was just troubled by the notion of people skipping over these complex feelings he's shown to have about not being taken seriously by other people to simply be like oh he's poly he should get with *grocery list of characters* lol, if it's a headcanon that people have then by all means! i'm only saying why i personally don't think this is the case because people seem to believe it as fact and think nothing else of his character when i think there is textual and contextual evidence stating the contrary~

exactly, this is also how i read this chapter and his character. eunoh already lives quite freely that i find it very difficult to imagine he would somehow stop at the idea of it not being socially acceptable to be with multiple people. i wouldn't be against it and i think jibung would pull it off well with their writing capabilities, but i don't think he wants that

Oh yeah definitely, I get where you're coming from, and I agree with the other comment as well. Please don't think I'm being argumentative. I'm just the kind of guy who likes to see different analysis' and perspectives of characters, especially if it's my favourites like Eunoh, it's super fun.

I'm personally on the arospec and monogamous, and he just mirrors a lot of what I say and think. The nature of aromanticism is often quite intertwined with polyamory, which is why those two get tied together and the direction I'm approaching things from. That's where my belief of his character comes from. Just because a character is carefree about relationships, doesn't mean they are carefree in every single aspect of relationships. Realising you're queer and deconstructing the fundamentals of what's viewed as a serious romantic relationship are a bit different, so it's possible for someone to realise they're queer before they're arospec and realise they don't see romance the same way as others. I didn't realise I was Arospec until 6 years after I realised I was gay.

Polyamorous Eunoh only works for me if his arc after this is deciding that crushes are a type of love that isn't "lesser," it's okay if they don't progress beyond that, and maybe he won't ever find that super special someone that everyone talks about and he dreamed of, but that's okay. The idea of him eventually coming to terms with the fact he wasn't as "free" with his love as he thought, and although wasn't confined by gender, was confined by his idea of what a "proper" relationship is, is just a fun idea for me because I like playing dress-up with dolls.

It doesn't really work or have the same kick if his romantic feelings develop beyond a crush and he has an Endgame like Isak, which I feel like is what will happen. I wouldn't mind though, they have potential and I'm here for it.

oh yeah i didn't think you were coming at me left or anything, this is interesting to discuss! i just wanted to make myself clear because i didn't want it to appear as though i was attacking anyone for thinking he is polyam or wanting him to be polyam i can see your vision and i agree, i would also like it if a polyam arc for him came about in that way but his monologue about wondering if he'll find someone special for himself after his interactions with isak does feel like the author is soft-launching their relationship so i'm happy either way. i don't much care for isak but i'd be interested to see how his character would get fleshed out if they engage with one another romantically, especially because eunoh likes to give and isak likes to take, so on the surface, it really looks like a perfect fit lol.