if Tj is anything its definately not a yearner, that man is a coward and u know it. this song and dance between tj and ian has been going on for 20 YEARS. just because he didnt want to acknowledge his feelings for ian, hiding his feelings, "protectinf ian" when in reality hes just puting ian in a box, Tj is so emotionally constipated, he couldnt even come in to terms with the fact that he liked men, even ian clocked it saying that he ws going to have a wife and kid in the future during their argument in the bathroom, it makes absolutely no sense to me how Tj wanted ian to stay by his side in the gang when ian had to endure that homophobic environment.. Im not saying Tj should out himself, but i understand ian for wanting to get out of that toxic environment.
Imagine the man you love can never truly come to terms with himself, and you KNOW he loves you back but hes too much of a coward to admite it himself.
And its insane to me how you tj fans applaud tj for "not going violent when hes jealous" as if thats not the bare minimum

its surprising to see how likeable tj is for me bcs i thought surely he's gonna be like a douchebag ex but no lol bro is a yearner i love how he doesnt get violent about his jealousy (it wasnt him who ordered yangji to hurt jo) , when he almost died of car crash the first thing on his mind was how glad he is that yw wasnt on the car with him, joined a gang and climb on the rank so yw can be safe
and i absolutely love how yw and tj put each other as top priority. the way yw offering his limbs to ensure tj's safety and tj made a deal so yw can be safe. then yw got so angry and wanting to kill jamie when tj car crash bcs of jamie. and their sex scenes always so ughhhhhh they want each other so bad and love how yw always said "dont rush there will be always next time" LIKE hshbshshbs its like "we will always be together anyway"