Both G and J have solid points, G deeply understands what is like to be known as gay, he has trauma because of it. It makes sense that he would feel better hiding that part of himself. J seems to see his relationship through the his straight lens, he might not be straight but still holds certain values that would be okay with a straight relationship but get complex when they are not, example of wanting to tell his friends(not just that he is gay, but also that he has a boyfriend.
) I might be wrong but J seems to try to take the loud and proud stance, he feels something he hasn’t felt before and wants to let G know he is “all in,” but G having negative experiences sees it as a scary situation.
I feel the best way to understand each point of view is by a list: J found out he was attracted to a man, had sex with said man, told him about his feelings, yes got rejected then went on to form a relationship, all within maybe a year or two. This was J experience overall positive in his own head, even with certain bad experiences. G found out he was attracted to a man, he kept it to himself, but got caught, was shammed by the mother of the other kid, got snitched on by the boy he liked, had to leave school, parents had to get involved. G’s experience was negative, of course he doesn’t want J to ever feel like he did in school.
One was somewhat accepted and then went on to have a pretty positive experience with him finding out he is gay, the other got rejected by everyone including the boy he had feelings for. Of course they see being gay as two different colors, one is seeing green and the other is seeing red.
Both G and J have solid points, G deeply understands what is like to be known as gay, he has trauma because of it. It makes sense that he would feel better hiding that part of himself. J seems to see his relationship through the his straight lens, he might not be straight but still holds certain values that would be okay with a straight relationship but get complex when they are not, example of wanting to tell his friends(not just that he is gay, but also that he has a boyfriend.
) I might be wrong but J seems to try to take the loud and proud stance, he feels something he hasn’t felt before and wants to let G know he is “all in,” but G having negative experiences sees it as a scary situation.
I feel the best way to understand each point of view is by a list:
J found out he was attracted to a man, had sex with said man, told him about his feelings, yes got rejected then went on to form a relationship, all within maybe a year or two. This was J experience overall positive in his own head, even with certain bad experiences.
G found out he was attracted to a man, he kept it to himself, but got caught, was shammed by the mother of the other kid, got snitched on by the boy he liked, had to leave school, parents had to get involved. G’s experience was negative, of course he doesn’t want J to ever feel like he did in school.
One was somewhat accepted and then went on to have a pretty positive experience with him finding out he is gay, the other got rejected by everyone including the boy he had feelings for. Of course they see being gay as two different colors, one is seeing green and the other is seeing red.