Everybody has good points which makes the miscommunication so annoying. garam is totally right on being scared of being outed, i was outed once myself, and my mum acted like i was the fucking devil himself. Yes we may live in a new world with a more accepting society but that doesn’t mean everybody living in the same society as us will be happy about it. I get jaehyuk like by a bit cuz yk letting fear consume you is also kind of a bad thing but at the same time when the information can change your whole life you have every right to be worried. (literally writing about bs like this i have to know) but his point doesn’t stand because him post garam was a fantastic example of why he’s scared of coming out, homophobes like how he was. He doesn’t get to decide that for garam. The rings situation however was so unbelievably stupid. You’re mad because you couldn’t give them first, if it was a secret how was he supposed to know? It’s not his fault, his lashing out was a bit crazy but for all we know hiding your birthday from your lover is a bit of a crazy thing to do, not that the other things were crazy but he did them as he knew what the outcome would be, somebody knowing your birthday isn’t gonna make it a bad thing. + him leaving is so dumb if they had a long talk about what they both wanted and that they can’t decide shit for each other it could’ve easily been solved. but knowing BL authors logic is out the window and communication is always gonna be out the window and never considered. (Unless you are the Sunny Days author who has many placed brain cells)
Everybody has good points which makes the miscommunication so annoying.
garam is totally right on being scared of being outed, i was outed once myself, and my mum acted like i was the fucking devil himself. Yes we may live in a new world with a more accepting society but that doesn’t mean everybody living in the same society as us will be happy about it. I get jaehyuk like by a bit cuz yk letting fear consume you is also kind of a bad thing but at the same time when the information can change your whole life you have every right to be worried. (literally writing about bs like this i have to know) but his point doesn’t stand because him post garam was a fantastic example of why he’s scared of coming out, homophobes like how he was. He doesn’t get to decide that for garam. The rings situation however was so unbelievably stupid. You’re mad because you couldn’t give them first, if it was a secret how was he supposed to know? It’s not his fault, his lashing out was a bit crazy but for all we know hiding your birthday from your lover is a bit of a crazy thing to do, not that the other things were crazy but he did them as he knew what the outcome would be, somebody knowing your birthday isn’t gonna make it a bad thing. + him leaving is so dumb if they had a long talk about what they both wanted and that they can’t decide shit for each other it could’ve easily been solved.
but knowing BL authors logic is out the window and communication is always gonna be out the window and never considered. (Unless you are the Sunny Days author who has many placed brain cells)