Yesss exactly my thought!!
"whenever there's an issue or an argument garam always blows up" jh has the history of anger mismanagement and is always the first one to blow up.
"resorts to either leaving or just completely icing jaehyuk out until he apologizes." proof except on this scenario?
Well there are different types of "blow up". Jaehyuk blows up fast and more but garam stores his emotions so when his anger blows up rarely it BLOWS.UP. Garam is insecure and his way to deal with emotions is by running away (more at once) when Jk deals with them regularily (little but frequently) so he has more opportunities to grow. It's a matter of personality and how they deal with stored bad emotions. Garam will definitly grow after, but he needs more time to resolve so much of stored emotions. Main opinion and yous are not wrong, but focusing too much on who is wrong. Answer is: no one, just different personalities. We just have to be patent and understanding. (English isn't my native language so sorry for many mystakes)
except your keyboard's autocorrect from patient to patent, your English is fine. for me, I do see both sides but I also think this is a forced argument from the author. but the problem here is, people are just criticizing Garam too much. traumatic history from being outed + his bf trying to out him. ofc it will hurt. he has not completely opened up about his past during their entire relationship because he had a hard time opening about it so how does it make sense for him to open up about it all of a sudden. for someone who has gone through experience of being unconsent outing and have seen a friend go through w it too, I understand it very much. the ring issue was Garam's fault but the issue at the morning was Jh fault and a massive one at that. one was a relationship issue and another one was a life issue. I am not saying Jh hasn't grown, he has and has poured so much into the relationship and is valid to be not fine with hiding their relationship forever however the actions he took after being hurt is not fine. At the end of the day, both of them have some maturity to do, not just one.
I understand garam's point and I get his perspective on things as its not jaehyuks place to out him like that knowing his fears and his past. But on the other hand its so much more than that when it comes to garam faults, to me he's in the wrong bc whenever there's an issue or an argument garam always blows up and resorts to either leaving or just completely icing jaehyuk out until he apologizes. Jaehyuk has grown so much since the beginning but I cant rly say the same for garam, he's the same person he was in the start, jaehyuk seems to be the only one making adjustments to his personality to fit garams and that's not how a relationship works. He treats jaehyuk like a short term partner, ready to leave at any inconvenience. Jaehyuk already had his development arc, garam is the same dude who refuses to communicate.