i’d say i’m pretty well versed when it comes to understanding ASPD and i’m not sure if this was the best representation maybe ??? i’m only on chapter 31 but every time they’ve referred to him as a “sociopath” or having the inability to experience empathy it hasn’t really shown to me. i understand that people with ASPD can feel “love,” but it’s debated on. from my personal understanding people with ASPD can’t really care for others, they are able to have care and love others in a way that is an extension of themselves yk ??? this doesn’t make every person with ASPD an evil person, media often portrays them as serial killers, abusers, etc but that’s no very true for a lot of people ASPD. i’m thinking my understanding of ASPD may be flawed or i’m misinformed because from my perspective the ml seemed to have a genuine care for mc, in a way that wasn’t just for his benefit. like when he stopped when mc would use the code word or something it seemed as if he stopped out of genuine care and concern for mc rather than stopping so the long term relationship between them wasn’t damaged/not to hurt something he viewed as his possession. ml seemed to have too much care for mc to make me see him as a person with ASPD, he went out of his way to impress mc. if you don’t mind i’m wondering if you got any info that can help me understand how ml is a good example of someone with ASPD or anything like that because i’ve been viewing people with ASPD as people who lack any real care for the others around them yk ?
Honestly idk why people are mad about Youngjo moving to Germany, his old company was SHIET. He himself was a SHIET boss, and any company that’s allowing their superiors to yell, scream, slap, and throw things at their employees is not a place anyone should be. Someone literally has a permanent scar on his face because Youngjo used him as an ASHTRAY. Him being forced into team 3 because they couldn’t get rid of him but didn’t want to promote him was so fucking toxic, and they only changed their tune when he started making more money than team 1/team 2. Even the fact one of the women only landed in team 3 due to being in a work relationship while Youngjo’s old boss got a promotion instead reeks of misogyny.
Thank fuck Hyunwoo made him realize he’s deadass abusing his employees and constructive criticism gets better results. I found it so ironic Youngjo was praising Hyunwoo for wanting to empathize with people when he can’t because tons of people choose not to when they can, when he was literally someone who chose not to empathize with people and even pouring coffee on their heads.
- Rant about the workplace toxicity over -
I really dislike how ASPD is characterized in a lot of media, because it is a nuanced topic. I felt it was quite refreshing the author chose to make Hyunwoo someone who wanted to understand others even though he struggled to. I think it also opened a dynamic I think most relationships should have as well, where instead of always just reading their partners face or gestures, it’s healthy to be able to say it out loud and make it clear whether something is liked or disliked.
I also just like BDSM dynamics in stories, and this one didn’t have rape/dubious consent which is so rare to find in a lot of BDSM manhwas. I like how safe words/gestures were used annd respected, and each of the characters had moments where they revoked their consent and they explained why before continuing.
Both of them amplified each others freaks, like normally I would think the jealousy playing into their bedroom is super toxic but Youngjo was super into it and as long as Hyunwoo didn’t cross any boundaries it’s a fine trait to have.
If anyone is curious there’s bondage, wax play, golden shower, neglect play, puppy play, exhibitionism, sounding, spanking, and enema.