Honest having a boyfriend like jaehyuk atp is a dream . Where will you ever find a boyfrie...

listen I get what you're saying but you can't trivialize what garam has been through. the weight of feeling like there is something wrong with you for just being who you are by people who are supposed to love you truly alters a person's mindset. he is thinking rationally in the sense what's rational to him. you read the chapter and realized how good of a bf jaehyuk is then you should realize how much garam loves him and thinks greatly of him and that's exactly why he is pushing him away. he think being with garam will drag jaehyuk down because so far he was just some straight rich confident guy but the reality for garam has been very different especially since his formative years. I can feel you for being frustrated but being angry with a character who's going through what alot of queer people go through especially in a conservative country like s.korea is something you should think twice about

You're a moron, and it's perfectly fine to be angry at a fictional character when they're being a coward and harming their partner unfairly. Cry about his reasons all you want: Garam is wrong, whether he's traumatized or not. Period. People are allowed to be mad.

I wouldn’t say Garam is hurting his partner unfairly, I think they just both suck at communication and empathizing…

@Hokipoko you can block me but it doesn't change that I can reply, coward Which is... Hurting each other. So yes, it's being unfair I think. To run away instead of talking about things is unfair. I think Garam is an avoidant attachment style while Jaehyuk is probably securely attached.

I never said you're wrong ofc you're allowed to be mad but I think your anger is superficial because you're not considering where he is coming from?? if that's moronic for you then that's you being a moron to not read text and understand the main characters and the nuances of their situations. it's not black and white I didn't even tell you to not be angry? I just said I get what you mean but I think this is that and you should consider it. but sure wtv consume and regurgitate. no one is attacking you or wtv we are trying to have a conversation about something we are all reading (sorry user replying to you the other user made it so I couldn't reply to them)

As someone with incredibly conservative parents who was outed in middle school I can see where Garam is coming from, I was outed in middle school so around 2017. So this has everything to do with no backbone. My mom threw a fit and a tantrum called me disgusting yadda yadda dissapointment to my family yadda yadda. Even till this day refuses I like women don't worry she desensitized now. Yet here I still am I don't let it affect my relationships and despite getting backlash from nearly all my friends if I am in garam I will seek comfort in knowing that my partner is a grown ass adult that has every right to live the life they want. If they want to come out sure and if they recieve the same treatment I will be there! Not to mention I wouldn't want my partner to be with friends that wouldn't want to be friends with them for something insignificant as loving me or the same gender

exactly!! firstly I'm so sorry that you have to be in that situation I myself am queer and mayn of the people brush off or deny my identity and that fucking sucks. and what you said in the latter half is what I wish the route this story takes, that they can grow as individuals and as a couple to be there for each other and foster an environment where they are not being put down for simply being themselves but that's a conclusion we're yet to reach. ofc there will be conflict ofc their inner thoughts and ideas will surface before that and clash I don't get what's moronic about trying to talk about something from a different perspective

Totally agree, Garam is acting like Jae never thought about what could happen if Jae chooses to be with him, that is wrong. Jae absolutely considered what could happen, but Garam it feels like he is doing this because he thinks its for Jae's own good cuz Jae is a child who doesn't understand consequences.

So bcz garam is traumatized it gives him a free ticket to hurt his partner who has nothing but love and support for him and pass it off as love for jaehyuk? Is that what you're saying ?

no one said that??? I literally said I get what the op is saying I'm also frustrated but this is obviously something they have to go through to come to a resolution. and being frustrated is one thing and being blatantly angry at him because unlike his partner he is not ready to come out is just dumb no one said he gets a pass for shit, bit everyone is acting like he's a cartoon villain or something but it's a character with nuance.

you guys flip and treat abusers better when it comes to a shitty half assed redemption arc than a struggling guy

I’m not sure what you mean by that? I think @Bend_me_gojo is trying to get at is that you need to look at the whole picture and also understand it from Garam’s perspective.

He for sure is totally a coward, and what he is doing is frustrating, but why is he doing this/like this?

Of course there’s his trama from his first relationship, the pain of being betrayed outed to everyone, and abandoned by everyone including his family. Not to mention the subsequent bullying. His father leaving them, his mother’s mental instability and mental/verbal abuse to “normalize” him (the past few chapters it also made it seem like she would result to self harm if he continued, but that’s just the vibe I got not sure).

After all that he starts yet another abusive relationship with Jaehyuk, and they are eventually able to overcome the initial rocky start and start fresh. Now Jaehyuk wants to do what’s best for Garam, but doesn’t realize/doesn’t register he’s doing everything for him without consulting and working together. Consequently this has been feeding Garams past traumas. Jaehyuk has gotten physically hammered protecting him, is being alienated from his family, blackmail was attempted against him by Garams ex to out them, he’s spent exuberant amounts of money. Garam looking at his own past doesn’t want Jaehyuk to face the same things he has faced because of his sexuality. Jaehyuk on the other hand doesn’t care about any of the consequences, and doesn’t understand why Garam does.

On top of that you have to think of the environment this isn’t America, it’s Asia where you have to rights to protect yourself due to your sexual orientation. It’s not uncommon to be let got after you’ve been outed, which adds to Garams anxiety towards wanting to not come out. It could affect his future, and he’s struggled so much just to attend college.

So you have Garam not fully explaining his traumas/fears and reasoning for saying no, and Jaehyuk agreeing and bottling things up till he explodes in short outbursts, which causes them to fight. Garam doesn’t want Jaehyuk to loose all the privileges he’s had in life and disrupt his lifestyle, and potentially blame it on him so he’s spiraling out fixating on a future that hasn’t happened and blaming himself for the potential cause of ruining Jaehyuks life.

Jaehyuk is just a simpleton, who loves Garam and charges in first asks question later/or not at all. He’s very driven by his desires and now it’s only Garam, but I think because he’s always had his way growing up (silver spoon/Chaebol lifestyle) he does only what he wants and hasn’t ever really had to think together with someone else. He’s only ever really had momentary/ physical/ selfish desires so he’s new to emphasizing/ the whole emotional aspect of human relations. Garams fears and actions are so alien to his way of thinking I don’t think it’s occurred to him how scared Garam is and his actions are his way of protecting Jaehyuk. To him it comes off as Garam not trusting him because of how trash he used to be, which in turn hurts him because he’s trying.

Overall they’re hurting each other, by trying to do what they think best for the other which out the others consent. They need to have a deep conversation to understand why the other is doing this and work together.
Given their stubbornness neither is in the place to listen really so taking some space to cool down and collect their thought would have been a good call if it wasn’t so terribly executed by Garam, resulting in an ultimatum by Jaehyuk. Honestly it feels like one of these situations where both needs to grow before they can be in a healthy relationship together ~I think they’re both at fault.

Things started going wrong when Garam heard Jae's mother say that Jae will absolutely get tired of Garam and dump him soon. Garam decided that this was a fact, he stopped trusting Jae, and out if nowhere started acting differently and Jae doesn't know why. That part is on Garam, but you also hit the nail on why Jae is also At fault, he's convinced everything can be easily fixed because he's never had to deal with something terrible. I just hate that Garam got hurt because his ex wouldn't stand up to his family, but Jae is standing up to his family but Garam doesn't want him to,, this whole thing is very frustrating

Yes exactly, I think from the beginning Garam was expecting their relationship to be on a timer and that was like the nail in the coffin. I wish they would just communicate, and I hope Garam can separate what happened in his past relationships and not project them on to his current/future ones. Very frustrating, but I guess the angst is why we all read

did you read anything I've replied to previously? I'm so confused by your answer rn