Jaehyuk is bi, not straight. Acting like he doesn't understand the consequences of coming out is infantilizing him. All these people claiming he couldn't possibly understand Garam's position are absolutely disregarding his own queer journey in this story. They are both 2 queer men in SK. Garam just has the unfortunate story of coming from hardship and early childhood trauma.
I don't think Garam is a coward. I actually think he has some fair points. HOWEVER, he needs to take responsibility. If he truly thinks it's best that they be apart, then end it. Don't run away and leave your partner distressed and confused. End it, walk away, and revel in the distance and solidarity you wanted. He's being an unfair partner when he refuses to communicate or give space for Jaehyuk's input. Jaehyuk is a grown man who is allowed to speak for himself on his own feelings and decisions. Claiming they need to break up for Jaehyuk's own good is untrue and gaslighting. That's no different than the horrible things Garam's mom and ex said to him. Essentially, Garam is passing on his trauma to Jaehyuk with a new twist.
I hope they break up. All they do is fight. Garam clearly isn't capable of giving or receiving love rn, which is totally fine. It's gonna hurt, but I think Jaehyuk will flourish from this and will be able to stand even more proudly in his queer identity. Garam has made this decision and won't hear Jaehyuk out, so it's his responsibility to fix it imo. A partnership means equal contribution. Step up or move on, Garam.
Jaehyuk is bi, not straight. Acting like he doesn't understand the consequences of coming out is infantilizing him. All these people claiming he couldn't possibly understand Garam's position are absolutely disregarding his own queer journey in this story. They are both 2 queer men in SK. Garam just has the unfortunate story of coming from hardship and early childhood trauma.
I don't think Garam is a coward. I actually think he has some fair points. HOWEVER, he needs to take responsibility. If he truly thinks it's best that they be apart, then end it. Don't run away and leave your partner distressed and confused. End it, walk away, and revel in the distance and solidarity you wanted. He's being an unfair partner when he refuses to communicate or give space for Jaehyuk's input. Jaehyuk is a grown man who is allowed to speak for himself on his own feelings and decisions. Claiming they need to break up for Jaehyuk's own good is untrue and gaslighting. That's no different than the horrible things Garam's mom and ex said to him. Essentially, Garam is passing on his trauma to Jaehyuk with a new twist.
I hope they break up. All they do is fight. Garam clearly isn't capable of giving or receiving love rn, which is totally fine. It's gonna hurt, but I think Jaehyuk will flourish from this and will be able to stand even more proudly in his queer identity. Garam has made this decision and won't hear Jaehyuk out, so it's his responsibility to fix it imo. A partnership means equal contribution. Step up or move on, Garam.