I mean it worked out in the end but this isn't the right way to go about similar circumstances in the future; who knows what they'll want him to do next (as a man in a relationship!). I don't understand how some people in these comments don't understand that. They say "that's how the business is" yes but she doesn't know that (she isn't an idol fan), even if she did she's allowed to feel uncomfortable and unaccepting of it; she's a human first and then a fellow artist, it's her first relationship and exploring boundaries. Whatever the reason was for it to happen (suddenty & time crunch, lack of agency being a rookie idol, inconsideration from the crew, pressure (it being linked with his success)) he should have told her before it's release no matter what. I'm sure she'd appreciate it. Now, if I was her I'd say: -I don't want to be the cause of your failure or restrict you from opportunities that are gonna help you grow as an artist and make it big. I wanna see you do exactly that. But man the industry is shitty for that fan service, it was totally unnecessary [That's what I think bc we're talking about an unrequited love; who in the world would be able to do sth like that without consequences ("win her over on impulse"? wth. What the other guys did doesn't match with his)? The "artistry" of it doesn't make sense, she's something they can't have/touch because she's not going to return their love (thus the sorrow) so why suddenly kiss her neck? We're going overboard]. You're a singer not an actor who has to act even the most uncomfortable scenes. Also, you were uncomfortable with it they should have stopped it. If you get the chance to have a say in the future, since I also don't feel comfortable with it please negotiate a change. -Yeah, I will. What matters to me is that you're okay with it first and foremost. But thinking Hirabi is the type to say "Dive in head first and don't think about me. I want you to rock!" But things are more serious than that in a formal setting (idol industry) and you should think things out more carefully if it has to do with your own autonomy and wellbeing.
I mean it worked out in the end but this isn't the right way to go about similar circumstances in the future; who knows what they'll want him to do next (as a man in a relationship!). I don't understand how some people in these comments don't understand that. They say "that's how the business is" yes but she doesn't know that (she isn't an idol fan), even if she did she's allowed to feel uncomfortable and unaccepting of it; she's a human first and then a fellow artist, it's her first relationship and exploring boundaries.
Whatever the reason was for it to happen (suddenty & time crunch, lack of agency being a rookie idol, inconsideration from the crew, pressure (it being linked with his success)) he should have told her before it's release no matter what. I'm sure she'd appreciate it. Now, if I was her I'd say:
-I don't want to be the cause of your failure or restrict you from opportunities that are gonna help you grow as an artist and make it big. I wanna see you do exactly that. But man the industry is shitty for that fan service, it was totally unnecessary [That's what I think bc we're talking about an unrequited love; who in the world would be able to do sth like that without consequences ("win her over on impulse"? wth. What the other guys did doesn't match with his)? The "artistry" of it doesn't make sense, she's something they can't have/touch because she's not going to return their love (thus the sorrow) so why suddenly kiss her neck? We're going overboard]. You're a singer not an actor who has to act even the most uncomfortable scenes. Also, you were uncomfortable with it they should have stopped it. If you get the chance to have a say in the future, since I also don't feel comfortable with it please negotiate a change. -Yeah, I will. What matters to me is that you're okay with it first and foremost.
But thinking Hirabi is the type to say "Dive in head first and don't think about me. I want you to rock!" But things are more serious than that in a formal setting (idol industry) and you should think things out more carefully if it has to do with your own autonomy and wellbeing.