I can understand where they are both coming from and how they both made huge mistakes by either running away without saying anything or giving an ultimatum. I'm just so stuck on their sense of normalcy. While its not the entire conversation, it seems to be the core for their argument, how they both view different things as normal. Jaehyuk views whatever he does as the norm essentially, while Garam bases it on what his previous toxic relationships told him is supposed to be normal along with the critics of society. Like Garam saying that's not normal for a partner to sacrifice these things for the other, really shows how bad his other relationships were. Of course there is a line where one can go too far and that is something that needs to be discussed. But everything he mentioned are things regular degular couple do for each other when in a healthy relationship. Many will give up their job, whether its because they need to move for their partners job or because it makes them uncomfortable. Plenty give up on family connections if said family is being rude and toxic to their partner. Jaeyhuk does tend to take a step across the line at times, but that doesn't make these self-sacrifices unnatural. Normalcy will always be determined differently depending on who you ask, so at the end of the day they just need to properly discuss what is their "normal". But they're both idiots and a mature conversation like that is unlikely to happen. （￣へ￣）
I can understand where they are both coming from and how they both made huge mistakes by either running away without saying anything or giving an ultimatum. I'm just so stuck on their sense of normalcy. While its not the entire conversation, it seems to be the core for their argument, how they both view different things as normal. Jaehyuk views whatever he does as the norm essentially, while Garam bases it on what his previous toxic relationships told him is supposed to be normal along with the critics of society. Like Garam saying that's not normal for a partner to sacrifice these things for the other, really shows how bad his other relationships were. Of course there is a line where one can go too far and that is something that needs to be discussed. But everything he mentioned are things regular degular couple do for each other when in a healthy relationship. Many will give up their job, whether its because they need to move for their partners job or because it makes them uncomfortable. Plenty give up on family connections if said family is being rude and toxic to their partner. Jaeyhuk does tend to take a step across the line at times, but that doesn't make these self-sacrifices unnatural. Normalcy will always be determined differently depending on who you ask, so at the end of the day they just need to properly discuss what is their "normal". But they're both idiots and a mature conversation like that is unlikely to happen. （￣へ￣）