Chapter 6&7 pmo

yes, but he has good intentions and i think it is different in her case. it’s not that she doesn’t want friends, it’s that she struggles to make friends BECAUSE she is an introvert. he knows that she wants friends so he helps her by doing that, it’s not that he just completely discarded her as he was in the same area and was still checking up on her (multiple times and even sat her down with the group of girls) if he didn’t do that and give her that push she wouldn’t have found the friends she has now, so it ended up being a positive thing for everyone. sometimes we need people in our life who will push us and help us

Oh he left her alone at first. That's why she was all alone in that corner table when that creepy sunbae caught her before she made her exit and badgered her. He only intervened when he learned about that sunbae's unsavory history only to drop her off again to another group knowing full well she's uncomfortable and wants to leave. And see, introverts mostly are very slow to warm up to people and are mostly anxious around unfamiliar places (if it isn't that obvious). Yes, his intentions were good but it was his execution that pmo. You can't just introduce an introvert to a group of strangers and expect them make friends at a snap of a finger like extroverts do. All he did was force her into a table of people she just saw for the first time, introduced her and basically said "I did my part . It's on you now. Ciao!" Introverts don't work like that. They need to feel safe first or they'll struggle. And strangers are not safe zones for introverts obviously. The worse part is, he was supposed to be her best friend for 20ish years and he knows her trauma but still left her to fend for herself. Thank god she managed though and she made friends in the end but that scene still made me mad for her

he only left her alone bc he had to work and you forget that he came back to check up on her after he checked up on her the guy came over and he chased him away bc of his reputation, which, fair enough. and he can’t be there to hold her hand the whole time ? he introduced her to the group of girls and left her alone bc he knows she has the capability to make friends. which she did because she was the one who started the conversation first. in life we can’t have people to hold her hand, if he sat there with them then she most likely wouldn’t have done that she would have sat back and only spoken to him the whole time bc she is familiar with him. we need to overcome trauma ourselves and we can’t depend on other people to do that for us. also she clearly didn’t even care that much so relating it to the trauma doesn’t make sense when she herself didn’t rly relate it to that but just her inability to make friends in general

He wasn't "working", he didn't work there in the first place. He was there for the gathering. He was socializing. All on his own, btw, on which he could've brought her along and introduced her to everyone while he was making his rounds. Which was the point of him dragging her there. And I wasn't expecting him to hold her hand all the way through. All I said was that introverts have a hard time warming up to strangers. He could've introduced her, stayed with her until she has warmed up to people before he left her to fend for herself. And don't give me that "he could not have known she was feeling anxious" excuse. If one couldn't tell how uncomfortable one's best friend is feeling after 20 years of knowing thrm, that's one empty relationship, if I may say so. Lastly, there's a vast difference between being considerate of one's feelings and holding them back from their potential of standing on their own two feet. My grumbling comes from the former not the later. I just feel like you need me to point that out, too to know where I'm coming from.

he was working there part time bc he offered so he was giving out and making the drinks helping them that’s why he wasn’t with her socialising. he stepped out and then overheard his friends talking about the guy, and then that’s when he helped her from the weirdo. and i didn’t say he didn’t know she was anxious, obviously he knew that, but he knew that she has the ability to get on fine and make friends if she just pushes herself a little. which she WAS able to do, and he knew that because they are bestfriends and he can read her. he knows that she can make friends bc they have the friends from highschool, she just needed to be motivated to do so

You know what, if you don't get my point then whatever then. Maybe you haven't been in those introverted friend's shoes that's why you can't relate to the feeling of being forced in a situation where you don't know anyone and the only person you feel comfortable with left you to "make friends" all by yourself. I just don't like those extroverts who do those kind of things to their introverts. But what do I know right? It's also tiring to explain sides with close minded people. I just really, really hope you don't do that to your awkward friends though, if your ever have one because that's just sad.