Sorry it has spoilers of book too..i didn't finish it yet but from where i am you know what i feel..i recognize her suffering as well as you have stated brilliantly on the 1st lines.. but Rosetta was privileged compared to Maxi. Sure, she got traumatized too, but she still had it way better.it's literally like me watching people getting murdered in Sudan and then turning around to lecture them like, "Ugh, I've suffered too, you know." Like... bro, you're watching from safety. It's not the same. Rosetta does that same thing to Maxi, and that's why it's so irritating.also that too when maxi is at her lowest.. i don't understand how does belittling maxi in her worst moments will uplift her.. she comes .. says how maxi can never change cuz she rosseta is same too and she acts like she had it rough..
I've been seeing a lot of debate about whether Rosetta is a good sister to Maxi. The short answer is, she isn't. I understand that she is, in fact, a victim as well. However, people tend to forget just how much freedom she actually had in the situation compared to Maxi.
The reason I still dislike Rosetta despite being a victim herself is because by the end of the series, this entitled attitude towards Maxi never goes away—it's never truly resolved. When they meet again in Book 2, Rosetta approaches Maxi, speaking to her sister almost as if they've always been close, or they're equals. She commends Maxi for her achievements as a mage and that's then she mentions their father's plans to her, essentially seeing if Maxi will do something to sabotage the Duke's plans of handing over the family empire to Rosetta and her future son. When Maxi expresses indifference to her father's plans, Rosetta becomes furious, yelling at Maxi for not taking the opportunity to confront their father, and then calls her a coward when Maxi declines her offer to assist in her sabotage. It almost feels as if her earlier platitudes were just to warm up to Maxi in hopes that her praise alone would get Maxi on her side. She still expects Maxi to be involved in her petty political feud with their father despite knowing that Maxi herself has her own life to live after suffering so much under their father's tyranny. Maxi is especially not entitled to assist Rosetta in anything, considering she was abandoned by both her as well as her father, yet Rosetta continues to express disappointment towards Maxi just because Maxi refuses to take a stand against her abuser.
At the end of the day, It's Maxi's choice whether or not she wants to confront her father, and knowing what she's endured as well as her temperament, it makes perfect sense for her to refuse. It isn't Maxi's fight, and she's already dealt with too much—from an abusive upbringing, a turbulent marriage, and a traumatic and humiliating miscarriage. Besides, why would it be fair for Rosetta to expect Maxi to assist her in her rebellion against their father when it isn't as if she herself ever supported Maxi before. (And no, Rosetta calling for Riftan to rescue Maxi isn’t a sign that she cares about and supports Maxi)