That's just plothole inwriting on the author's part. We readers just see the overall story and just a chapter or two back we see in the flashback with his mother how much it affected and still affects him. Also coming out to one person is not the same as to others. heck it was not even coming out, jh discovered him. You seem to take Garam forcing Jh into a closet very seriously but don't really treat the same when Jh tried to out Garam. Biasness.
We're all biased. We're all taking subjective opinions on a fictional story. Funny that you get to decide what is contextually relevant to the story, but my reference is just "plothole inwriting". Rude.
I don't think Jaehyuk telling his friends without Garam's consent was a good thing. I also don't think he was telling them in bad faith. I think intentions matter.
Also, being forced back into a closet IS a painful experience. I'm glad if you haven't had the displeasure, but I can tell you from personal experience it was awful. Coming out is a choice made to be free of societal tethers. Some people aren't ready to fly yet because there's always the chance you'll be shot down or caught in a storm. That's totally fine. However, once you've flown for a bit it's nearly unfathomable to imagine being put back into a cage. Js.
exactly
even though the intention matter, it is still a bad thing. It was impulsive decision. Even if he did not know the total consequences of it, he at least knew Garam didn't want it but did it anyway which is a clear violation of boundary.
I'm not "deciding" what is relevant or not. Just because Jh found him doesn't mean he was out and proud. His back story is pretty consistent. It can be interpreted either way.
I'm sorry it happened to you. I mean it does suck. But being outed sucks equally too. You get ignored, lose half of your friends and then bullied by people you don't even know. It all depends upon the person. While Jh wanting to come out is valid, him forcing that thing on Garam and demanding an ultimatum is invalid.
As I already said, I don't think Jaehyuk outing their relationship to his friends was an acceptable decision. However, that one choice doesn't give Garam a pass on all his missteps. They both are and have been wrong at multiple points throughout their relationship. They are very well-written, dynamic characters with the capacity to hold multitudes.
At this moment I, and I assume some others, feel Garam is in the wrong for abandoning his partner at the drop of a hat. That's cruel, too. Can you at least concede that that was also a hurtful, impulsive decision?
Oh of course that was a hurtful and impulsive decision. If he wanted a break, he should've really tell him in person. It is kind of cold to his partner, I acknowledge that. At the same time, looking back into Garam's headspace and Jh's history with anger.....I kind of also feel like it would have been safer choice for him. Leaving the letter and keeping an open line commuincation through cell phone creates this awkward distance without fully closing off on the relationship. It wasn't mature but it was kind of space.
Saying it face to face would have lead to argument too and then it would end up with Jh leaving instead of Garam and Garam will be stuck in the apartment he did not pay for and kind of feels guilty about.
Both have issues. But I feel like people are shitting too hard on Garam. He has trauma. He won't be able to share it right now amidst the fight which he hasn't done in his relationship. He can't suddenly "get over it". It takes time. Plus it's been only a day since their fight. So impatient. People consistently justify Jh's anger issues "cause that's the way he is" while continuously hating on Garam and leaving threats for a fictional character for having trauma. I can't with one dimensional readers.
It's been so long that I had to reread the beginning of this story just to be sure. Garam came out to Jaehyuk in the 2nd chapter, unflinching, after being caught fucking himself on Jaehyuk's bed with a dildo.
This whole debate on whether Jaehyuk outed Garam or not seems moot when the whole origin of their story stems from Garam outing himself to get back at Jaehyuk for his homophobia. Retcons are a thing, but I feel this context is sorely lacking in the discussion rn. So, once again, I'll say that Garam is quitting their relationship now to "protect Jaehyuk", not himself. He's fine being out, but not his relationship being out.
Jaehyuk has done and said a lot of mean things in the past, but Garam is wrong here. He's forcing Jaehyuk into a closet with no room for other options. That's why he gave an ultimatum, too. That said, as a queer person, I understand why Garam feels the way he does. Being out as a couple is a common conversation in queer relationships that honestly can be a dealbreaker. Personally, I think they should break up. They have too many irreconcilable differences and this is just the straw that broke the camel's back. Take a break, at least. Garam left, so he should be the one to fix things; however, based on this chapter it seems like we're in for yet another Jaehyuk chasing arc.