CNC does not mean "anything goes, no matter the injury." That's a fundamental misunderstanding of what the kink actually is.
Done correctly, CNC requires more trust, more negotiation, and more communication than vanilla sex, not less. You establish boundaries first. You agree on safewords. You talk about what's off-limits before you ever touch each other. The entire framework is built on mutual consent, just with a layer of roleplay on top.
I really wish the author was more educated on this. Because there are people who genuinely enjoy CNC, and people who strongly oppose it, that's fine. But either way, CNC does not grant anyone the right to physically harm their partner. That's not edgeplay nor kink. That's just injury with a label slapped on it. (And enjoying CNC does not automatically mean someone has a mental disorder.)
// In fact, major psychological and psychiatric bodies (like the American Psychological Association) do not classify BDSM practices, including CNC, as mental illnesses, provided they are:
· Consensual (genuinely, not coerced) · Safe (risk-aware, with safeguards like safewords) · Sane (not driven by psychosis, impaired judgment, or intent to cause non-consensual harm)
Many psychologically healthy people enjoy power exchange, taboo roleplay, or intensity that mimics lack of control, because they feel safe enough to explore fear or vulnerability in a controlled setting. It's often about trust, catharsis, or even processing past experiences in a way that feels empowering. //
And that's my two cents.
Hoping the divas will be informed after reading this long ass paragraph. xoxo.
CNC does not mean "anything goes, no matter the injury." That's a fundamental misunderstanding of what the kink actually is.
Done correctly, CNC requires more trust, more negotiation, and more communication than vanilla sex, not less. You establish boundaries first. You agree on safewords. You talk about what's off-limits before you ever touch each other. The entire framework is built on mutual consent, just with a layer of roleplay on top.
I really wish the author was more educated on this. Because there are people who genuinely enjoy CNC, and people who strongly oppose it, that's fine. But either way, CNC does not grant anyone the right to physically harm their partner. That's not edgeplay nor kink. That's just injury with a label slapped on it. (And enjoying CNC does not automatically mean someone has a mental disorder.)
// In fact, major psychological and psychiatric bodies (like the American Psychological Association) do not classify BDSM practices, including CNC, as mental illnesses, provided they are:
· Consensual (genuinely, not coerced)
· Safe (risk-aware, with safeguards like safewords)
· Sane (not driven by psychosis, impaired judgment, or intent to cause non-consensual harm)
Many psychologically healthy people enjoy power exchange, taboo roleplay, or intensity that mimics lack of control, because they feel safe enough to explore fear or vulnerability in a controlled setting. It's often about trust, catharsis, or even processing past experiences in a way that feels empowering. //
And that's my two cents.
Hoping the divas will be informed after reading this long ass paragraph. xoxo.