this could be a bad manhwa plot rn (all names are fake ofc)

If youre seeking for an opinion: The way you explained it makes one think that the guy is in love with you and tryna forget you with others.. he might do it consciously or subconsciously but still. His ex most likely felt jealous seeing how close you two are and maybe seeing through his true feelings. (hence to why they broke up she realised she didnt stand a chance next to u) Now im actually invested in this. Will he ever confess and how will he get over being rejected? Or has he already accepted that you only think of him as your best friend and is actively trying to move on from you... You are right this does sound like a bad romance manhwa plotline. But who will have their happy ending? (also just think about it... biting ppl is not normal thats possessive as hell almost obsessive)

Ok, so. there's actually a lot that I left from point A (the time with Roxie) vs point B (him clinging to me). So let me flesh it out, Kal is a chronic insomniac at least during this time and me and my other best friend, Paul (we're a trio) worries for this man cuz all he's putting inside his body is monster drinks. We tried melatonin gummies (Kal forgets to eat them), we tried ASMR (he finds it creepy and annoying), but then he said, "I just need someone to sleep with."— like a sleeping buddy or some. Tried of his glum and desperate attitude towards finding any meaningful connection after his break up, I was like "I'll be your sleeping buddy." As much as I would do anything for my best friend, we have different body clocks at this point. Mine is being awake in the day, and being dead asleep at night, while his is being awake 24/7, not necessarily alive type. So whenever we sleep, he just sleep, cuddle and drools with me. I'm not gonna say that cuz that's when I know he's sleeping, not just faking it.

So while we're fixing this insomniac gloomy best friend, again, he's now moved into talking to girls online. Which I'm glad about because I'm getting a break from catching strays (*ehem* Amy). Unfortunately for Kal, he keeps finding girls who are easily attached (his words, not mine). So I joked, "Guess it's time to scrub my posts with you, bro." and maybe it's just me, but his reaction was not "sure", "fine", it's a resounding no with all the finality of everything. Like uhhh, sure man? So summer came and dude realized he had a thing for my other "friend"/classmate Ashley. [I'm using air quotes cuz this girl for some reason felt done so dirty by me, examples being, "you asked me about my scores in this exam and you boasted yours", sooo uhmm, I'm sorry for asking you a normal question after the grueling experience and when you asked it back to me, I now boast about it?? as well as me and one guy, Fred, from our class just having a talk, and I give him a little jab as a sign of being bros and somehow they said, "I was invading his space and being unladylike", I was a big tile away from him, being unladylike, I have no rebuttal for, I am known for being unladylike in everything.]

Kal was like, "I have a crush on her." and I was like, "Ah shit." but of course, even if Ashley doesn't like me, I'm not gonna bring it to that, I believe in our friendship. So when opportunity arises, I grab it and chuck it to the both of them. They ended up being together. In secret at first, which left me feeling butthurt cuz I thought it's always bros tell bros everything, especially considering that the one he wants to date is literally my classmate. But ended in a open secret, of course again, I disappear straight into a bubble and refuse to be seen with him because no matter what happens, despite Ashley saying "I trust you as his girl best friend." I will not become a ploy to ruin another relationship. It was closing to Christmas break when Kal started talking to me and Paul in our gc again. We were a trio again!!! Yayyy

So I thought everything is all and well, the Amy curse is gone! We were hanging out, mostly me and Kal, Paul became busy due to family work. But now I can now watch my best bro as a best man at his wedding!!! I don't have to worry about my bro being alone anymore!!! Until I received a message from Ashley, "does Kal message you?" Huh???? So I answered "yes, he's currently talking right now on our gc, sup??" The dam opened, apparently Kal has been cold and distant, won't talk to her. So I did what i can, hear her out and talk it out with Kal. So I did, apparently Ashley has been backstabbing me and being emotionally unstable for months, still I meditate and told him to just talk to her. Find a solution. I didn't suggest anything btw, I just straight up asked how she/he feels about this situation and what would they want to do/happen within this relationship— help them lay out the facts basically, no jumping to conclusions.

So they broke it off at the new year's, 2025. Uhhh. Yeah?? Only for Ashley to instant regret it, asking Kal to come back and fix this. He doesn't respond and just let it be. So not only do I have to console Ashley crying about this but also Kal now becoming close to me again. Then Ashley said something that struck me a nerve, "Kal has been looking for you in my relationship too, we were on a date and he bought pens." I was confused so I ask her to elaborate, "He bought pens for himself and yours." Honestly??? Speechless, I was just saying, "oh it's prolly cuz it's purple, I did drill to him when he owed me money hahaha" bro did owe me money, but I didn't expect him to do that to his girl at a date. Neways asked bro about it and was like, "do you remember the piss colored pen?" and it clicked, it wasn't just me, it was also our bro, Paul, he missed us, our trio.

Honestly happy, he did miss us in his way. Neways Ashley gets comforted by her actual COF and the one guy, Fred, he's just an overall nice guy. Ashley, now gushes about Fred and that's when I knew, subconsciously Ashley is falling for Fred. So I slink away and back to my own quiet space, unfortunately for me tho, is my dear friend, Kal is now single, chatting to online girls at side and ready to make my quiet space, unquiet. He knows leans towards me whenever he feels tired, or just becomes clingy. Even going as far as saying, honey to me. Cuz he likes honey, and I was like, "at least it's no longer monster drinks..."


(I still have more stories but for now, just this)

this is eaither edging or rage baiting. Are you tryna show me that he ISNT in love with you? Cause if so, then its not working. You are doing the exact opposite. Im not almost sure this kal guy not only has a big fat crush on you but is hopelessly devoted to you~. Thank you for the update. Also, when you started saying hes an insomniac i burst out laughing cause same its 3am and i cant fall asleep but i dont ask my friends to sleep next to me... opposite gender even less so... so you teo literally sleep together. Oh my. The plot is thickening. Im sorry if i take this lighty but its like a chinese/korean drama with love triangles (?), unrequited love(??)... im no genius but you dont deny only feeling friendly towards him... are you sure you dont like him like that? Either youre a fantastic badass friend who does every and everxthing for others orrrrr you kinda like him too but dont wish to take the risk of ruining not only your friendship with him but possibly your trio too with paul. Theres an even higher chance hes feeling similarly... you sure you only have pure feelings towards this poor man? Altough its true that some men make a move on you to test the waters but you kinda come off as someone who even if they get hit on or flirted with you wouldnt notice. (Not on purpose) him thinking of you on a date... ah sounds like true love to me. Also another thing... you give off the vibes of a tomboy/boyish girl who mostly only has guy friends but you still are the "mom" of the group. Also. F*ck the self sacrificing every time a new girl comes around. You cant be serious. Im sure you mean and always will mean more to him than any or most girls. Your feelings and your relationship should matter to both of you. You cant keep hiding. Or getting back to the shadows. Do you plan to do this every single time he dates someone? Thats kind of you... but not kind to you. You should be more selfish sometimes and think about yourself. If your bond is really strong then dont let other ppl get in the way. Ik its easy for me to talk from a high horse but i hope you take my advice. You could try to talk to him or hint stuff to him but he might be too scared to do anything so... maybe you have to man up sooner or later. Ive yapped too much, forgive me if i was too blunt with you. Ill gladly read more of your story or if you have something to share im all ears. (●'◡'●)ﾉ

So thank you for enjoying my messy life but to be completely honest with you. I didn't know i was falling for him til I saw him getting close to someone inside our campus. I honestly thought it will be just me teasing him again for getting accidentally into another situationship, but my literal hands felt cold and clammy. While my face remained to be as teasing and as friendly as ever, I knew that I am fucked. Cuz I have been in this situation before where I also fell for my former best friend, Bon, except in Bon's case, I knew of a boundary between us. In Kal's case, he don't draw anything, still even I know that a boundary must never be crossed. But no, he even held my hand, asking me to cross the line.


I felt selfish for falling for him, and it made it worse cuz he, now calls me honey, saying that cuz I keep spoiling him. I didn't know I was spoiling anyone, I just like to give my friends pretty things/things they want, or the support they need. Neways, the worst came when he told me he found another girl in another department that he clicked with, a girl he talked to hours going on at night and another that is close to his cousin's. The one that was close to his cousin's, Anna hurt me the most cuz (again, this is me being selfish and butthurt), he helped Anna during her sudden burst of fever and he accidentally kissed her forehead. He said that's all there was. I wanted to believe him so much but that actually sent me to a spiral. One day, when we were hanging, he went out to buy snacks. I saw his chats open with Anna, it was intimate, not in a sense of actual intimacy but it's closing to romantic.

I couldn't hide me crying, so I just told him that I saw my ex. It was easier to explain, just have him to scold me over my ex, than actually let him know. Cuz again, I don't want to confess, I don't want to ruin a great friendship over my stupid feelings. He sighed, but didn't pressed on. Now that I know that I'm utterly in love with Kal, every teasing jab I threw at him felt like a stab straight to my heart.

Also since he's single, he's free to take me home if our ends align. We went to buy from 7/11 cuz he's hungry and then he saw the other girl from another department, Sol. He was giddy cuz it has been long seeing his new friend so I acted busy, "take all the snacks you need them, dad's calling me. take the snacks NOW." (my father never actually called me, I just stayed in the parking lot, crying silently as the minutes ticked by. Kal came back, all giddy, meanwhile I look like utter shit. I told him, it's just a tiring class. He didn't pressed on.

To ask your questions though, I don't plan on hiding forever. I also don't plan to do this everytime he gets a girlfriend, unfortunately though, most of the girls' perspective (or at least in my country) is men with girl best friends are bad. While I don't personally agree with this, I do understand how it feels like, so I'll just comply. (To be fair, Ashley don't mind me, her COF though, I know would definitely mind me.) I don't mind the bluntness, my friends are too soft on me sometimes. I love them to death though ╰(⸝⸝⸝´꒳`⸝⸝⸝)╯

First of all, its understandable that you fear you might ruin your friendship if you give it a try.. but you never know. If you never take the chance youll never find out for yourself and you might regret it for the rest of your life. But if you dont plan to hide forever... then whats your plan? Girl, if it has gotten to the point of you bawling your eyes out just because you saw their text messages... you are head over heels for him. And you could save yourself the trouble, from having a mental breakdown everytime another girl gets close to him, by telling him your true feelings... i strongly believe hes reciprocating them. Second of all, I dont know what country you are from, but i do know in my home country many if not most believe in girl-boy friendships being impossible solely cause one of them will sooner or later will catch feelings... and that happened with you two. Pet names, biting, sleeping together (quite literally), explaining that he really just accidentally kissed the FOREHEAD. Bud, youre making up lies... lying to him, pushing him away... what do you expect him to do? I fear if you dont take your chance when hes single it might just slip through your fingers. You sound like a gentle, caring, down to earth person, and i truly wish you the best. I wonder what your friends have advised you to do? Also thanks for always answering to my very curious questions, i might be too nosy... Ah, Im aware that im far too invested in your story. Oh lastly, i dont think you are selfish. Quite the opposite. More selfless than many people i know, in fact, id advise you to be more selfish, grab him and get together. Youre always looking out for him and his situaitonships/exes feelings, but whos looking out for you? ive got the perfect quote for you. Its from "love for sale", ch 39: "Understanding is dangerous. You neglect yourself and justify the other by understanding them. So you understand your parents and your sister (the people around you), but who else is going to understand you other than yourself?" I hope got my message across. Anyways, if i havent offended or again you just wish to tell a stranger things im happy to listen (or in our case read). If you feel more comfy in private just send me a dm, i check this site every day. (●'◡'●)ﾉ