It’s not dumb when the top has been constantly used throughout his life and the moment that he feels like he has someone whom he relies on who doesn’t see him as a tool, only to find out that dohu did indeed see him as a tool hurts like crap.
Yes, he knows how hard it is for dohu to express his emotions, but that reason alone doesn’t give excuse for leaving someone out of the dark for the fact that you used them for your writing especially when that someone is a person who confides in you.
Top isn’t mad because of dohu’s mental issues, hes mad at the fact that he got used by someone he trusted.
ok that's true but when you've let ur vulnerable side out for someone you've trusted for so long only to end up double guessing if they loved U in the first place when their first intention was to use you, it's understandable. Esp since being used was all he'd known his whole life. I'm not saying he's not in the wrong, but it's understandable why he acted that way
I'm not supporting the bottoms action and yea i do understand the tops point both of them have issues, i just got annoyed how he insulted him about not caring about people emotions because he don’t understand them, it’s like confiding you deepest secrets to someone just for them to use it to hurt you during arguments, you get?
Sorry, but in which chapter did Juheon directly insult Dohu because “he doesn’t care about people’s emotions/doesn’t understand them”?? Throughout their relationship, they’ve opened up to each other about their traumas and experiences where they’ve helped each other heal. He’s been one of the very few people who understood Dohu & loved him for who he is.
Even in the timeskip, it’s prevalent that Juheon still loves him and literally flips out when he so much as gets a burn on his hand, kept the plushie they bought when they were on a trip, and took care of him when he was drunk. He only acts like he hates dohu because he’s trying to defend himself from getting betrayed again. Sure, they’re both at fault for failing to communicate properly, but im confused where you got that claim from.
If u could provide a chapter, I’d be happy to discuss this with u :)
I think it might be trauma from his childhood experiences when he and his mom were abused and his current experiences with his auntie (who also just uses him for her gain). His extreme reactions/grudge is most likely a defense reaction for him cause psychologically, when a person gets trauma, they end up with a lot of stress reactions like intense anger, fear, anxiety, etc. which explains why he’s got his walls so high up in the timeskip

Coming back to reread this and the top really pisses me off, baek dohu has told him about his inability to express emotions properly so he has some mental issues but he gets angry at him being a mentally ill patient and not being able to show emotions like damn didn’t he tell you that in the first place
I don’t hate the top but I’m finding it really hard to understand his actions, yes baek dohu did wrong but getting angry at him for not showing emotion is dumb