Tbh it's kinda sad cuz he flirt unconsciously to others get close to random people in public but when it comes to seme he behave distant... If their roles were reversed people would be saying bad things about seme and uke would be getting pity party lol but then they have long way to go
he's so shy to his partner LMAO
Idk about others but I wouldn’t be doing that. Obviously this is a defence mechanism and I know that because I too fawn so people can like me and I can get validation and acceptance and helps me feel like I’m allowed to live one more day. I’m not saying Uke is like that but many many people unconsciously flirt and get onto peoples good sides specifically because of trauma or fear or childhood neglect. Also, it’s one of the 4 fear responses and is probably the most common over over the other 3. Both prey and predators alike do it. I think he needs therapy not to be cancelled.
was it stated or hinted that it's a defense mechanism for him? cause it pretty much just look like your average friendly person that has no sense of personal space sometimes.
Agree linking everything with trauma and self made support for character that clearly has no idea they are hurting their partner this way if seme become this friendly with others I wonder if he understand what seme feeling all along.
Until I got therapy, I didn’t know it was a defence mechanism. Also, literally everything you do or don’t do usually has a link to your childhood. I also literally stated “I’m not saying the uke is like that”. I’m saying that instead of judging a person or character, I’d want them to seek therapy for it.
Again… he needs therapy to help him understand what’s going on and how to manage it… not to be judged and have absolutely no idea what to do from there. Judging has absolutely no use here because it doesn’t help seme nor uke. This isn’t like it’s abuse and he is doing this on purpose. He’s unconscious of it and the seme is purposefully not sitting down to have a real conversation about it. They BOTH need therapy. Uke for his lack of physical boundaries and figuring out where in his life he learnt that and how to manage it from now on and seme for his conflict avoidant nature and again, where he learnt that and how to manage it from now on. Everything we do is learnt from somewhere so we just need to unlearn that and it’s only therapy that can do it!
Tho none of them have done anything terrible, seme is clearly jealous-sadden that uke is more closer & affectionate to others. So far we haven’t seen uke voluntarily kiss, hug, hold hands, even say I love you to seme. It will be resolved.