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Kotsumi September 26, 2017 10:24 pm

I am biromantic and my parents are very religious, I already asked my mother about what she thinks about it (not talking about me) and she said that if a son of hers did that she would kill herself......
every day I feel guilty for being who I am and I always feel uncomfortable inside my house, it's like a torture ...
I don't know what can help me now but I just really need positive messages ( 〃..)

Responses
    Maowkaz September 26, 2017 10:34 pm

    I'd advise that you wait until you're on your own and working steadily before letting them know about your situation. At that point, no matter what, at least you were honest with them and can move on with your life. So cheer up and don't feel so guilty.

    Always remember, someone will love you!*hugs and kisses* That said, my mum is about the same. So I can relate.

    zephyr4 September 26, 2017 10:35 pm

    Aw, stay strong!
    I'm not good with advices but I'll try. Try not to think too deep about it. Don't let the family guilt trap you and most of all never blame yourself for what you are. If you think it's possible to share it with one of your family members (sibling or cousins) then try to do subtly overtime till you know they'll not freak once you tell them or someone who's broad minded in general. Having some one in the family to confide in will surely take off half the burden.
    Maybe finding new interests will take your mind off it.
    Stay positive and don't let any sort of guilt torture you because you don't deserve it.
    Wish you all the best.

    Anonymous September 26, 2017 10:49 pm

    religious people are delusional.

    Okarisu September 26, 2017 10:51 pm

    You said biromantic. Are you asexual? If so I know a great support group I can share with you if you have a Facebook. If not, then AVEN works, too. You're not alone. You've got an entire community ready to support you whenever you need it.

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 10:54 pm
    I'd advise that you wait until you're on your own and working steadily before letting them know about your situation. At that point, no matter what, at least you were honest with them and can move on with your ... Maowkaz

    I already thought about it to make it less difficult, but I feel that I would feel even worse because I know the reaction they would have.
    I think it would be better to keep it secret, soon I'm going to start college and soon I'm 100% independent, so I think when I get to that point I'll be able to get better.
    Anyway, thank you for your advice. (▰˘◡˘▰)
    I'm already much better just because you answered!

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 10:59 pm
    Aw, stay strong! I'm not good with advices but I'll try. Try not to think too deep about it. Don't let the family guilt trap you and most of all never blame yourself for what you are. If you think it's possible... zephyr4

    omg thank you so much!!!!! You're very good with advice!
    It made me so much more excited and hopeful that things are not so bad!
    I'll try to forget about it every time it starts to bother me, distracting me reading a new manga~. (▰˘◡˘▰)

    Chichi-chan September 26, 2017 10:59 pm

    Same here...sorry, got nothing supportive to say. I'll leave it to those who are actually good with words (▰˘◡˘▰)

    Something September 26, 2017 11:02 pm

    I think you're probably tired of ppl saying "I know how you feeling, but you'll be fine later" or "I have been through the same," and I'm not saying that they're bad or annoying ppl, they have a point, I just see it differently Bc y'know, I went through it too. Therefore, I suggest that you stay strong and you're already one step ahead by asking for advice here.

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:02 pm
    religious people are delusional. @Anonymous

    Well, not all, many religious people are very understanding and even not accepting these people respect others. Unfortunately in the case of my parents they are the opposite of that. ╥﹏╥

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:06 pm
    You said biromantic. Are you asexual? If so I know a great support group I can share with you if you have a Facebook. If not, then AVEN works, too. You're not alone. You've got an entire community ready to supp... Okarisu

    Yup! (=・ω・=)
    Many thanks for your help, I had never heard of this AVEN before!!!
    Hmm, I don't usually join facebook groups, but I'll accept the link from this group. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:10 pm
    This reply will be showed after approved! NielaJ

    Waaahhh !! Happiness increased by 100%!
    I will strive and move on! Maybe later I'll have the courage to tell them!
    Thank you for your help (≧∀≦)

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:13 pm
    Same here...sorry, got nothing supportive to say. I'll leave it to those who are actually good with words (▰˘◡˘▰) Chichi-chan

    Just because you answered already made me very happy! (≧∀≦)
    I wish the best for you, and I hope everyone's words here will also help you as they are helping me!

    Okarisu September 26, 2017 11:14 pm
    Yup! (=・ω・=)Many thanks for your help, I had never heard of this AVEN before!!!Hmm, I don't usually join facebook groups, but I'll accept the link from this group. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ Kotsumi

    Unfortunately, it's a secret group and only can be joined via invites, meaning you'd have to friend me, and I'm sure you don't want to do that with a stranger on the internet, though I assure you I'm harmless. I use a fake account, though. To keep my stalker at bay... don't ask.

    Okarisu September 26, 2017 11:15 pm
    Unfortunately, it's a secret group and only can be joined via invites, meaning you'd have to friend me, and I'm sure you don't want to do that with a stranger on the internet, though I assure you I'm harmless. ... Okarisu

    Well, and for other reasons. Anyway, that's not relevant. XD

    Maowkaz September 26, 2017 11:15 pm
    I already thought about it to make it less difficult, but I feel that I would feel even worse because I know the reaction they would have.I think it would be better to keep it secret, soon I'm going to start co... Kotsumi

    If you ever wanna talk, feel free to PM. I can offer hugs

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:16 pm
    I think you're probably tired of ppl saying "I know how you feeling, but you'll be fine later" or "I have been through the same," and I'm not saying that they're bad or annoying ppl, they have a point, I just s... Something

    I can already be happy just for the good intentions of everyone here! (≧∀≦)
    I'll try everything to keep me strong, thank you very much for your help! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:19 pm
    Unfortunately, it's a secret group and only can be joined via invites, meaning you'd have to friend me, and I'm sure you don't want to do that with a stranger on the internet, though I assure you I'm harmless. ... Okarisu

    Nah XD I don't mind you having a fake account!
    Anyway, I'm very introverted and wouldn't have the courage to stay active in the group ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄

    Kotsumi September 26, 2017 11:22 pm
    If you ever wanna talk, feel free to PM. I can offer hugs Maowkaz

    OMG you're the best person in the world!!! XD
    I'll remember this any time I need, you're so kind~ (≧∀≦)

    zephyr4 September 26, 2017 11:23 pm
    omg thank you so much!!!!! You're very good with advice!It made me so much more excited and hopeful that things are not so bad!I'll try to forget about it every time it starts to bother me, distracting me readi... Kotsumi

    Oh I'm glad that I was able to make you happy a bit :)
    I also feel very concerned at times...because I've got a feeling I'm aromatic asexual. I kinda told my mother (in a subtle way) but she didn't understand what I was saying XD but was kind enough to listen to it all. In my case it's not my parents whom I'm worried about, but the society. So it try to not think about it at all.
    For me I feel that my family is my greatest blessing and I want to be with them as much as I can. (Living away from home isn't all that fancy ;_;) So, I'd say make most of your time with your family and when you're independent, carve out your own path.
    My prayers are with you. Stay strong! And yes, reading manga distracts us all :D
    Btw, give Ao no flag a try. It's an amazing manga with so much character depth. I love it.

    LaughingAardvark September 26, 2017 11:26 pm
    You said biromantic. Are you asexual? If so I know a great support group I can share with you if you have a Facebook. If not, then AVEN works, too. You're not alone. You've got an entire community ready to supp... Okarisu

    I'm sorry to hijack someone else's post but could you tell me what that Facebook support group is?