meant to upvote, sorry!
Literally i was like why are you bringing this up in a rp if it's something you're both genuinely upset about and haven't talked about yet
While normally I agree it could've been his way to provide a more open space. Sometimes it's hard to have that communication and when we "remove" our selves it can be easier to act as ourselves. As far as play go, beyond the costumes, Jungwon didn't actually do a lot. It was a lot of talking from him. It might e been his way to provide a safe place given their relationship.
People roleplay all the time to better understand each other. In therapy role play is often used to help open up or challenge situations that would otherwise be difficult. Even if it may not be in costume or with a whip.
So I think this was still healthy for them. Even if it's something you or I may not do.
These were exactly my thoughts! I was confused why he would try to enter that type of conversation while they were in play mode
while using roleplay is ok to talk sometimes if it's hard to do as yourself, I got the ick too from jungwon even though he's a good dom otherwise. that convo was not right to have when doing a d/s dynamic especially seeing how stressed out hoseob got, especially when he started accusing him of just needing any dom...got the ick bad and poor hoseob got stressed af.
I appreciate your reply. I mean that.
I'm not arguing that it didn't work out for them. But if this is something you're going to do, just like with play, there should be prior discussion about the possibility of it happening. In hindsight, I didn't express that in my first comment, which is my bad.
But I will say from your perspective Jungwon didn't do a lot, but from my own experience, talking and words may cause a lot more distress than physical pain. I'm not sure I'd even remember the safeword in a situation like that. I'm sure it does work for a lot of people, but personally the way this happened would do a lot more to damage trust than fix issues.
They needed to talk, but tbh during roleplay was not the time for that. It ended well enough, so I guess that's okay, but it felt icky to me. It blurs the lines between between fantasy and reality, and I really don't think mixing degrading insults and accusations from rp with a real and serious topic is an okay thing to do.
With that said, Jungwon is generally a very healthy example of a dom. But maybe that's what made this ick me out more, because I kinda expected better of him.