and if they do rougher plays they should have a safe word
Exactly. I think what felt weird here was this is very clearly stepping into BDSM territory and we don’t have any clear boundaries or safeword so all I saw was him begging for it not to happen that way and it felt very much dubcon.
exactly, if they had a safe word , uke saying stop would be fine since they have another way for the play to stop, but since they dont and we didnt even have a conversation ab doing rougher plays for the viewer to see its very much weird and ppl have a righr to be uncomfortable
I think my main issue is actually with the vanilla community being weird. If you’re into kinky shit, you need a safe word. If you are “vanilla” but like spanking, choking, spitting in someone’s face, cumming on someone’s face or dirty talk, CONGRATS YOURE IN THE BDSM COMMUNITY!! That means you need a safeword! Because vanillas demonise the BDSM community, they forget that all the “kinky” stuff they like are actually ours and that makes them part of our community too. There’s nothing more dangerous than a kinky vanilla. I’ve dealt with doms and sadists and I can trust them with my life and mental health. The one kinky vanilla I dated SA me and said “I didn’t know! How was I meant to know?” Despite setting up a safeword (he ignored it) so the only appropriate response to kinky vanilla people should be being weirded out and feeling uncomfortable. They take on all the risk with no safety measures and no accountability.
idk i cant say i am vanillia irl but in fiction kinky, tho from what i seen its both of the communities faults , tho i am sorry this happend to you
ppl are weirded out bc of the way its showed, yea they did had rougher plays before but this one feels very much real with how the uke is crying and saying stop cmon think